1. They never allow themselves to completely trust other people.
They can never really bring themselves to trust other people because of how untrustworthy they are themselves. You can’t get intimate with a person you can’t trust. The very essence of intimacy is vulnerability – and you can’t allow yourself to be vulnerable to a person who you also happen to not trust. [Also Read: 5 Signs your Partner is actually Faking their Care]
You are always going to have to trust someone if you want to open up to them. And in the world of intimacy, opening up is just downright non-negotiable. You really have to allow yourself to trust another person if you want to get intimate with them. [Also Read: 18 Signs He’s Developing Serious Feeling For You]
2. They are always looking for spots to put themselves in a position of power.
They never want to be weak. They never want to find themselves being vulnerable. And so it’s their reluctance to lower their pride and let go of their ego that makes them incapable of being intimate with other people. If you always want to be on top, you’re never going to be able to connect with any of your peers or equals. [Also Read: 6 Simple Ways To Win Her Heart without many efforts]
3. They have tendencies to be abusive and manipulative in relationships.
A narcissist is selfish. And so naturally, a lot of what they do in life is going to be fueled by selfish desires. Sometimes, because of their utilitarian tendencies, they will tend to look at people as potential tools to help them get what they want in this world. And it’s because of that kind of philosophical view on the role of human beings that makes them incapable of establishing intimate ties with another person. [Also Read: 6 Ways on How to Deal With Rejection from a Crush]
4. They aren’t good team players (particularly in situations where they don’t benefit).
A relationship is a partnership. You can’t possibly expect to thrive in an intimate relationship with someone if you can’t see them as an equal. And that’s the biggest problem with narcissists. They don’t see anyone else as their equals. They always see themselves as people who are above others – and it can be very difficult to establish intimacy with that kind of mentality. [Also Read: 7 Things Loyal Friends Do for Each Other – Did you have one]
You only ever really get intimate with someone you feel like you can connect with. So if you see yourself so far detached and above someone else, you are never going to be able to get intimate with that person. You are going to have to learn to humble yourself and see someone as your genuine equal if you really want to get to an intimate place with this person. [Also Read: 5 Steps To Finding Your Dream Relationship]
5. They are never going to be able to know what true love really means or feels.
A narcissist is just never really going to understand what it means to be truly in love with another person. True love entails a certain sense of selflessness and indebtedness. True love lets go of all ego and entitlement. True love is filled with so much affection and gratitude.
True love is the epitome of getting intimate with another person. And since a narcissist is virtually incapable of experiencing true love, it also makes them incapable of experiencing the pinnacle of human intimacy. And that’s a shame. Because there is nothing more beautiful in this world than two people who are in love.