This is it! You’re about to have s*x for the first time, and you are equal parts excited and scared. You know that you’re in for quite a memorable experience, but you’re not entirely sure about what you should be expected to come out of this.
You’ve heard about how magical and amazing it is for some people. And yet, you’ve also heard from others about how awkward and uncomfortable it can be doing it for the first time. So you’re still trying to navigate your way through these expectations while simultaneously dealing with your anxiety as well.
And that’s okay. You can have a million things running through your mind leading up to the big event. It’s almost a universe rule for people to typically feel a little nervous and anxious about having s*x for the first time. It’s a big deal for a lot of people after all – and no one wants to mess it up, not primarily on the first try. However, you also have to be able to keep your expectations real. This isn’t going to be as easy and as magical as they make it out to be in the movies.
But it doesn’t have to be a complete and awkward mess either. You just have to make sure that you maintain your self-confidence going into it and let go of all of your insecurities; you shouldn’t let your fears keep you from having fun on your first time. And if you and your partner believe that the time is ripe for the both of you to get it on, then go ahead.
Just make sure that you don’t rush into anything. You don’t want to be diving into something that you’re doing for the first time without first preparing for it. Take things slowly. Move at a pace that is comfortable for you.
And if you’re still nervous about it, then it would probably help to know about what you can expect from the ordeal. Well, here are a few things that you can expect to run through your mind when you’re making love for the first time.
1. “I wonder if I’m doing it right.”
Of course, you will want to make sure that you’re doing it right. But don’t sweat it too much. Just make sure that you’re always communicating with your partner so that you’re both on the same page.
2. “Is this supposed to be painful?”
If it’s painful, then you might be doing it wrong, or you might be rushing things. Again, take your time. And don’t be afraid to make use of some lubricant if you have to.
3. “Hopefully, I’m going to be good enough for my partner.”
It’s normal always to want to be good at something. But you shouldn’t put too much pressure on yourself.
4. “I better choose the right underwear.”
It’s not an absolute necessity that you wear s*xy underwear. But at the very least, make sure that you’re wearing clean underwear.
5. “This is nothing like they make it seem in the movies.”
It never is. You shouldn’t believe the movies that you watch anymore. It’s never going to be like real life.
6. “Is it cheesy that I consider this to be such a big deal?”
No, it’s not cheesy. Having s*x for the first time is a big deal for a lot of people. And you shouldn’t feel bad for feeling that way.
7. “I better put on some extra deodorant.”
Proper grooming is always a plus when it comes to s*x. So good for you for thinking ahead!
8. “Should I be making more or less noise?”
Just do what feels natural to you. You don’t want to make it seem like you’re disinterested, but you don’t want to make it look like you’re faking either.
9. “I should probably stop overthinking everything.”
That’s true. While s*x can be a big deal for you, it’s not necessarily something that you need to be overthinking for.
10. “What am I supposed to do with my hands?”
Again, just do what feels natural to you. There is no one rule on what you should be doing with your hands. It’s all about learning what you like to do and what your partner is comfortable with doing as well. Just play off one another’s energy and figure things out as you go.
11. “I better text my friends.”
Go ahead. Ask them for tips. Or if the deed is done, let them know that you’ve finally conquered your s*xual Mt. Everest.
12. “I wish s*x education was a little more comprehensive.”
It’s true. The stuff that they teach you during s*x education classes in school is practically useless to you in the moment of actual s*x.
13. “I can’t wait to try it again.”
And once you’re done with the deed, you’ll get hooked. You will want to try it again, and hopefully, you’ll have a better experience the next time around.
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