The beginning of a new relationship can be both exciting and tricky. Someone out there is always thinking of you. They wonder what you are up to and seems to be the sweetest when it comes to you.
They make you feel special and loved. It’s all sunshine and rainbows!
But it is also accompanied by stress and worry. You wonder if you are doing the right thing and making the right decisions.
What do you do when you are unsure how to maneuver your way through the currents of overwhelming feelings? Worry not! Here, we have curated a list of dos and don’ts when you are in a new relationship.
1. Connect with them
A relationship is not based on looks or feels. It is based on people. Connect with them, find out who they are, understand their fears, and support their beliefs. A relationship based on trust and respect is far better and long-lasting than one made for appearances.
2. Be spontaneous
Allow yourself to experience new things. Routine gives you a sense of comfort, but to ensure that your relationship is moving forward, you need a dash of spontaneity. Be impulsive! Plan a road trip, go for a hike, or ask them out for a morning date. Sometimes, to kickstart a relationship, you need to do something away from the normal and into the crazy.
Talk to them. Tell them how you feel. Tell them exactly how you mean it. Communication is the foundation of any relationship. Effective communication can build your relationship and lay the base for a future together.
4. Be positive
Be positive! Stop doubting yourself or the other person, the plans you make, or something you have decided. Trust yourself and your partner to handle everything. Your negative note may end up getting them down as well, while your positivity may help get their spirits up.
5. Do not assume or overthink
Do not overthink or assume things. Think calmly. There are more chances of the problem having a simple solution rather than it being an earth-shattering problem – only if you can keep calm. Overthinking adds to the worries and stress you already have. Talk to your partner, and maybe you will realize that things are not as bad as you think they are.
6. Do not try to get even.
Your partner may have done something wrong to you, but it does not mean you go full battle mode on them. Remember, they are human, and mistakes are an all-time possibility. You are human, too, and you are also bound to make mistakes. Treat them the way you want to be treated. If you start getting even with them and try to one-up them, it is not a relationship. It’s a competition.
7. Do not get intimate until you are 100% confident.
Appreciate each other, but do not do anything you are not ready for. If you are prepared and they are not, wait. Talk to each other and get intimate only after both of you are comfortable.
8. Do not be possessive/controlling.
Being in love is beautiful. You want to be with them all the time; you want to spend hours talking or chatting with them and showing them off. But you also need to understand that they need their alone time. Sometimes, a person needs to be alone to figure themself out. During these times, if you act possessive and try to control them, your relationship is heading to the lane of doom.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé