Stop the Slippery Slope of Losing Love at the Smallest Signs
Watching all those Hollywood romantic comedies ends up having this made-up idea of love in our heads. We start to expect that same level of unending romance in our romantic relationships, which is why most of the time, they fail to meet our expectations. While you can get over a one-time mishap, a lack of interest should make you get up on your feet and analyze the situation to see what exactly is going on in your relationship. To save you from being caught off guard, we will provide you with a list of signs that you should keep a lookout to see whether your relationship is going downhill.
8 Subtle Signs That Your Man or Partner Doesn’t Love You
1. You’re the ones making all the plans
Let’s hang out? Let’s go for dinner? Let’s go for a movie? Let’s go workout together? Do you want to come over? Do you find yourself continually saying these things to your significant other? If the answer to that is a yes, then you need to realize your partner has lost interest and that they would rather sit at home on their phone then spend time with you. If you’re the one initiating all plans, then just know the issue persists, and they are not there anymore mentally.
2. No reliability
One thing that you expect in a relationship from your significant other is reliability. Whether that reliability comes down to them doing something that you asked them to do or just having your back and being there for you in times of need. If you always feel let down, have to make up for tasks not done by your significant other, then it’s time you realize that they cannot be relied on anymore. Their sudden lack of reliability doesn’t stem from them being lazy but from them not caring enough to be there for you when you’re in need.
3. Not the same level of intimateness
This aspect of the relationship should be looked at from two different angles. If your partner refuses to have the same level of intimacy with you and for no legitimate reason, then you need to look into why that might be. Are they getting that intimacy from somewhere else or aren’t interested? Simultaneously, if the level of intimacy increases more than usual while the emotional connection decreases, then know again, there is a problem. This increased intimacy is all that they want because they’ve lost all other interest in the emotional aspect of this relationship.
4. Lack of communication
Communication is the key in any and every relationship, and for someone that you want to spend every day with, communication becomes 90% of the relationship. No communicating in a relationship leaves you dating a brick wall and nothing else. You lose anything and everything meaningful in the relationship. If you see your significant other resisting from communicating emotions, then know they don’t care enough to share anymore. This is an essential sign which shows that your partner has lost interest and they would rather keep things with them.
5. Meaningful conversation and talking about future
Fun times and intimacy aside, what defines a stable relationship is that you can talk about literally anything and everything with your significant other without hesitating. It all boils down to those emotional, deep, and meaningful conversations that you have which define your closeness and easiness. If you see that your partner avoids those meaningful conversations and plans (marriage and most importantly just life commitment) are a no go zone for them to talk about, then just know you’ve spotted a red flag.
6. No calls or texts
In the age of mobile phones, Snapchat, WhatsApp, and Instagram, talking to your significant other is as easy as pressing a button. However, even with such a facility, if your significant other refuses to be the first one to text you or call you, then we have a problem. The texts and calls you get should not just pertain to tasks to be done etc. but it is essential to have regular everyday casual conversations, good morning texts, and so on. If you find yourself not at the receiving end but rather on the sending end every time, then know that the amount of interest and effort in this relationship is not equal.
Fights are a part of every relationship which comes and go; however, if you see these fights becoming a part of your everyday routine, then the relationship is not where it was. Struggles that have reasons behind them are indeed understandable at times. Still, if you see your partner being nitpicky and picking fights for unnecessary and unreasonable reasons, then again, this is another red flag. You need to understand that those fights are frequent because he wants you to know and realize that he isn’t interested in the relationship anymore and is just trying to find a way out of it.
I can’t go out today because I have work. I didn’t call you last night because I slept early. I rushed because I was getting late for work. My friends came over last night. These are just a few of the excuses you will commonly and frequently start to hear when your partner starts to lose interest. You need to realize that if they cared enough for the relationship, they would prioritize you. However, when you become second or third in the list and excuses become answers, then you have a code red situation, my friend.
Quiz to Check on Your Partner Love You or Not
Q1. Does he spend time with you?
Quality time in every relationship is crucial. Whether that is at dinner, movies, or just chilling at home, you need to see if your significant other is still spending that time with you. If they are making excuses to hang out with you and those hangouts are less frequent, then no that something is definitely up.
Q2. How often do you fight
If you find yourself always fighting and bickering about the smallest of things and you can’t spend an entire day without fighting about one thing or the other, then again know that your partner is unhappy. He is either dissatisfied with something that happened amongst you or wants an out from the relationship.
Q3. Can you talk, or is it a brick wall
Do you still click? Can you always talk about anything and everything and still be intimate with each other? If the answer is no and you feel like your partner has grown distant to you in terms of communicating with you, then, unfortunately, it is again an unfavorable sign.
Q4. Is the spark still present?
Is romance still present? Is he still the same person that he has been with you throughout the relationship? Judge the behavioral change. Is he more distant? Secretive? Or is he just trying to get more comfortable? Ask him and if he still tries to be secretive, then take that as your red flag.
Q5. Does he make time for you?
Everyone has a million things to catch up on in the day, but it still boils down to making even the slightest of time for your significant other because, at the end of the day, it’s the effort that counts. If he is not putting the same measure as you, then your question is answered, and it is unfavorable to you.
How to Win Back His Love
Like anyone else, if you are invested in that relationship, you want the spark back, and you want your partner back. Firstly, analyze yourself and see if you’ve changed negatively. Are you more distant, moody, or just busy? Second, talk to your partner because communication is, again, the key. While they might not be up for this conversation but showing them that you are aware of their behavioral change might make them open up to you. Lastly, just try to be there for them as much as you can without losing your self and hey, if it is meant to be, it will be.
While the portrayal of love in Hollywood movies seems to be easy and straightforward, in real life, it tends to get a tad bit more complicated in that. Soul mates can’t be found every day, so make sure to keep an eye out for these red flags to assess where your partner’s interest stands and try and bring your relationship back.