Rule Of Thumb: Absolute No On Sending Nude Photo
Sexting is the practice of sending sexually explicit texts, videos, or photos using your cell phone. It is considered to be the new normal now because you will find people doing it everywhere. Sexting is usually found among the young people as they say it is a way of advertising to your partner that you are sexually active. Some people even call it safe sex as there is no risk of contracting S.T.D’s or even getting pregnant.
Once you send your picture or video via your computer or cellphone, it is no longer your property, and the one who has it can do anything with it. You cannot control how they use it or even how it may influence your reputation. This is why you should always say no to sending nude pictures of yourself. No matter how discreet they maybe, maybe you have cut out your face or you show a small but delicate part of you, someone can take advantage of that to exploit you emotionally, physically or even financially.
In some cases, nude photos can be mass forwarded by the recipient to their friends and who knows who will have a bad agenda towards you?
Sometimes you might break up with someone, and they can use the nude photos or videos as a way to get revenge. It is, therefore, safer if you avoid sending nude pictures by all means. If someone wants to see you naked, let it be someone special.
It is also an interesting fact that in most cases, sexting is considered a form of child abuse or disturbing child pornography when some minors are engaged. Some have even been prosecuted as sex offenders.
When Sending Nudes May Be Considered
1. Consent and boundaries
Sexting and sending nudes should only be done when both parties consent to it without feeling like they are being forced to do so. Before dropping a graphic picture of yourself, you should set some boundaries. Remember that once you send that picture, you no longer have the freedom to say how it is going to be used. That is why it is great to have an open and honest conversation about this topic.
2. If it is about you
Sending nude pictures is a form of looking for approval about how you physically look, that is why you take all those sexy photos in search of the perfect one. It is also good to take the pictures to enhance your esteem. Take them so that you alone can look at them and feel good about your body. Sometimes all you need is self-love and appreciation to get to where you want to be.
3. Long-distance relationships
If you are in an LDR it is sometimes acceptable to send your significant other some spicy nudes just to jolt them up. It can also be a nice surprise for them, and they will have you in their minds all along. This will also increase the anticipation for you two to meet again.
Top 3 FAQs on Sending of Nude Photos
Q1: I like this guy, and he keeps asking for the nude photos. Should I send over?
One thing you should know is that it is completely up to you to know whether you are willing to get naked in front of the camera. You should also know that sending the picture also comes with some risk. It is always good to question the agenda behind why this guy is asking for the photos.
Maybe you like him, but does he like you or are you just another person who he does not care about? You must be able to trust the guy before sending the picture and if you do, always know that that trust can be broken later.
You can also consider sending half-nude pictures. Like, put on a huge t-shirt and crop out your face this way there is more surety that the damage will be minimal or lack of it.
Q2: Are there apps that can erase the nude photos?
First, if you send a nude photo to someone else, you can’t get it back, and there is no guarantee that the person will delete it from their phone even if you ask them to.
You may delete the photos from your phone, but experts have proved that you have not truly removed them since there are software and apps that can be used to recover deleted pictures.
To thoroughly delete them, fill up your storage space as the new content will overwrite them and un-sync your phone from the cloud saving. This way, you can know that they are entirely gone.
In some cases, you may want to erase the photos and videos in front of the public eye but keep them hidden for your eyes only. Here are some apps that will enable you to do that:
1. Private Photo Vault
Private Photo Vault
Source: Photo Privacy App
This one protects your photos behind a pin protected folder in your albums, and you can even set up additional layers of security with passcodes within the app.
2. Best Secret Folder
Best Secret Folder
Source: App Store
This on disguises itself on your home screen as an assuming app folder labeled utilities. This way, you will have access to your passcode-protected sexts without having to swipe over your gallery.
3. Vault for Android
Source: Google Play
This is a sneakier app that disguises itself as a calculator app. It enables you to hide your nudes without any suspicions, and you can also download other sensitive media without being detected.There are also messaging apps that are fully encrypted and will prevent hackers from getting your nudes. These are those apps that employ end-to-end encryption such as Whatsapp and Signal. These are great for your protection, especially when using Signal as it also disables screen shooting by default on Android.
Q3: How do I reject this awkward request without ruining the relationship?
You have all the right to refuse to send your nudies. It does not matter whether you are in a long term relationship or it is someone you have a crush on. A guy asking for pictures is tacky at best and in some cases, disgusting at worst. If someone asks for nude photos and you want to reject them without ruining your chances with that person, here are some responses you can give:
1. Say NO
You don’t even have to explain why you don’t want to send the nude photos. If the guy respects you, they will not pester you and force you to send them when you have openly refused.
2. Talk about it
Before you get into a relationship, it is always good to set boundaries and nudes can be one. If you want to have a long-lasting relationship, you have to table such issues to avoid future misunderstandings.
3. Send him literal nude photos
This means that you send him nude shades. It can be a nude makeup kit or a nude lipstick; this will send them the message that you don’t want to send them your naked pictures.
4. Troll them
If a guy asks for a nude, send them a loading GIF. When they say it doesn’t work, send another one and another one. Repeat the process until they give up in frustration or until you get bored. If they try again another time, hook them up with the same GIF. To make it more frustrating for them, ask what they want in the photo and tell them nothing is off-limits then watch him die as his soul is slowly crashed.
5. Send something fine
Nothing is a great burn as sending some fine art. Do they want to see naked bodies? Send them some nice art such as the Discobolus, the Belvedere Torso, or the Age of Bronze statue.
Don’t be tempted to put your pretty face in the picture. Think creatively of ways to avoid showing parts that may identify you, such as birthmarks or tattoos. Also, avoid showing your living spaces in the nudies. Only send the photos to your significant other and also show them how to hide the images in their phone from the public eye. Also, before you send it, alert them that the photo is not suitable for work (NSFW) if they are at their workplaces.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé