1. Personal Experience with Apologies
Every girl has been in a situation with her boyfriend. She ends up having a verbal fight about something within the relationship, whether it be fighting over what show to watch, not picking up the laundry from the cleaner’s, or worse, cheating.
As women, we always try to win an argument even if we’re wrong, but not all women. Now that you put yourself in a painful situation, you have to make it right. Many women do not take pride in apologizing to people, especially their partners, but it has to be done to continue a healthy relationship.
I know, ladies, it’s a hard thing to do, but you need to try for the sake of your relationship. I used to be that girlfriend who was unapologetic and crude. You know the one, the one who always had to have the last word. Still, then you come to realize that not being able to apologize and not being able to take responsibility for your actions can jeopardize your relationship with the person you love. Here are some tips on how to say sorry to your boyfriend and make things right again.
2. Take him out on a date.
Men love to eat, so why not take him out to a romantic dinner and nope, I’m not talking about McDonald’s unless, of course, that’s his favorite restaurant and he’d rather eat
chicken nuggets instead of steak. Showing this type of initiative allows him to rethink the argument and revert to what matters, all on a full stomach! It has been known and accepted for years that the guy usually buys the girl dinner in all seriousness. As millennial’s today, all of that has changed. Roles are being reversed, AND positions are now shared equally in the relationship. So, buying dinner is a nice gesture, and believe it or not, men do appreciate these types of things just as much as women do.
3. Write Him an Apology Letter
Even in an apology letter, you can still be romantic. A message gives you a chance to be an open book and let your guy know how you deeply feel. When I was younger, I wrote letters to the people who would get mad at me. I didn’t know how to apologize upfront and openly, but the notes helped me. I had time to sit down and think about how I hurt that person, how I could say sorry on paper, and reminisce about the good times.
As a girlfriend, your boyfriend will appreciate that because a letter is a lot of effort. It gives the apology sentimental value because that is something your boyfriend can keep with him forever. Avoid sending text messages at all costs; it’s not as impressive as a letter, and a text message is something that can easily be written off as rude. Apology letters are a great option to say sorry, and your boyfriend will consider it when he finishes reading it.
4. Take Him on a Romantic Getaway Weekend
Now, this may come as a surprise for some of you, and you’re probably thinking, “why to go on a getaway trip when he’s mad at me?” Great question, but how long does anger last? Not long, especially if you are going on a trip. It’s pretty tough to fight while on vacation and a nice little weekend cabin trip is a great way to be in the middle of nowhere in tune with each other. Now, it doesn’t have to be a massive getaway like Cancun or something because that would be a little over the top for an “I’m sorry” trip.
Your relationship isn’t a reality television show, but you can still apologize in style. So, let’s keep it simple and keep the focus of the whole trip.
5. Throw a Shindig for your Boyfriend and his Friends
This one will work well, especially if you don’t like some of his friends. Come on ladies; there’s always that one friend your boyfriend has that you sometimes find yourself rude to every so often. Now, imagine yourself welcoming his friends to your home, yes, even the guys you don’t like, with open arms, Bud Light, and no fighting allowed.
It may even be challenging, but you gotta’ let your man get some cheating in with the boys. He’s going to think more highly of you because you are showing maturity, and it allows him to know that you can see it passed the argument and move forward positively. A man loves it when his friends and his girlfriend can get along amazingly. He gets to hang out with his bro’s while still enjoying his time with you.
6. Give your Boyfriend Freedom
He may not want to talk anymore, and he may need fresh air but does this signal a breakup? Possibly not but, guys need time to get away and think. As women, we talk about the problem until it is worked out, but men are different.
Many people in relationships believe that getting some time away is better than verbally working it out. Your boyfriend may say things that he does not mean at the heat of the moment, and some distance is better than starting a fight. Instead of talking, he needs time to think about the relationship you both are in. He may go to a friend’s house, his parents, or sibling to recollect. If you must, send him a text to check on him. When a significant other is away for quite some time, we may feel inadequate in our gut.
Many things may go through our head, such as if he is in danger if he is getting bad advice, cheating on you to be vengeful, but you have to be optimistic as hard as it may be. Give him about a week, and both of you will be as strong together as you both first were.
7. Don’t Fight, Make Things Right.
Many women fail to forget that we don’t ever think about being a guy. We think about having one but being one is a whole different ball game. You don’t know what it’s like for you to step into your boyfriend’s shoes to see what he goes through and to have disagreements with your significant other.
Showing a little empathy can do wonders, and while the heart may not be the absolute best solution, it certainly is a great start. Have you ever asked your boyfriend how he feels about the relationship? How does he think of you as an individual? How does he feel about himself? There are two sides to every story, and to understand where he’s coming from as a lover, is to take the time to listen to what he has to say. Don’t be rude; hear him out because you will not get very far by not listening. Think things through, reflect, and then speak and, at all costs, avoid verbal fights.
8. Simon Says, Tell Him You Love Him
Whenever you get into a fight with your partner, it isn’t the best situation we want to put ourselves in. We may say things that can be a little discouraging, but you have to pull yourself back into useful girl mode and be reasonable and fair as a girlfriend.
Telling your boyfriend that you love him should be nothing less but meaningful and straightforward. Send him a sexy text while at work. Show him the girl that he first fell in love with show him the woman he will continue to stay in love with. An ‘I love you’ is romantic anytime you say it.
9. Show Interest in Your Boyfriend’s Hobbies
Remember those things that you find annoying that your boyfriend does? Your boyfriend may have a talent for producing music, catching Pokémon, or collecting action figures. These things may sound outrageous and a waste of time to you, but it’s one of his many loves to him. So, with this being said, start to show interest, do a little cheating, and digging into his hobbies even on your own. Ask him a question about his many little joys, be involved in what he likes. This will earn you cool relationship points, and hey, maybe you will enjoy these hobbies of his just as much as he does.
10. The Romance is Real: Getting Intimate
Getting back into the swing of things with one another and sharing that sexual chemistry all over again is romantic and refreshing after a long time of bickering and fighting. Now am I saying use sex as an apology? No, we aren’t concubines, but as human beings, we enjoy sex. Sex is an endorphin making everyone happy, and who doesn’t like to be satisfied? Use this specific tip if it follows after one of the other suggestions: After the dinner, you made or took him out to the getaway weekend you planned for him. When this tip becomes essential, unless the disagreement involves cheating, then sex may not be an option at this time. how to Say Sorry to your Boyfriend
11. There’s Nothing Wrong with Just “Saying Sorry”
Yes, ladies, those two words that we take pride in not saying enough, ‘I’m Sorry,’ will need to be repeated. You will have to step up and let it be known to our boyfriends that we’re sorry and mean it. An apology can go a long way and mend a lot of hurt in your relationship. Be the bigger person and admit your faults. Focus on your actions and own your behavior. Do not apologize just to shut him up or make yourself feel better. Saying I’m sorry should be heartfelt and meaningful. Never use ‘but’ after saying I’m sad because if you meant the apology, there shouldn’t be a need for a ‘but.’ All the expectations you may have after the apology should not be expected. Don’t expect anything in return at the moment because your boyfriend may accept the apology and maybe he won’t. Don’t jump to conclusions but just let it sink in for a while.
P.S. I’m Sorry
In closing, being able to say sorry to your boyfriend is healthy and shows you have your grown woman undies on. In a relationship, people will disagree with one another, partners will bicker, couples will make up, and others will break up. It is your choice to make things right and work on your relationship or give up and leave. Everyone’s relationship is different, and the person you are with maybe other from you, and that’s what may have attracted him to you… but here’s the kicker… when we get into a relationship, we accept each other’s differences, and if not, we learn to compromise to keep the person we love in our lives. Nobody ever said a relationship would be comfortable, but it definitely can be worth it. Go ahead, girl, stop the fighting, say sorry, and get your man back because that is what we call the true definition of romantic.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé