Let’s face the truth! No matter how much two partners love each other and how healthy their relationship is, there comes a time when we all need a little spice to keep things interesting. And considering how fun and exciting to solve this issue is, it’s probably one that most people would like to have. Also, even if you still have that fiery passion, it’s always nice to switch things up a bit and try other sensations.
This is why, in this article, we will tell you about some romantic and creative things that you can try in bed in order to offer your partner a deeply connected sex. You will have to surprise him in the bedroom and make things interesting, especially because this is easier said than done, hence the need for this article. So, you’d better take some notes!
How to Romance a Man In Bed
Romancing a man in bed can be, as previously mentioned, easier said than done. Yes, their minds might be easier to understand than those of women’s but there is always that question regarding whether or not he will like your surprise. On the other hand, most women are too self-conscious and shy to amaze their partners in bed and resort to the good old classic sex. This should not be the case at all.
The following ideas will allow you to think outside the box for a while and do things that you have never done before. Even the simplest moves or intentions can have a big impact on him and can seriously improve your sex life. Being stuck in the same area for years doesn’t help anyone and it can be a clear path to failure. Actually, boredom in the bedroom is one of the most popular causes of divorce and breakup. So, leave all that shame and all those thoughts behind and just go for it. You love your man after all, don’t you?
6 Romantic And Creative Ideas To Surprise Your Man In Bed
1. Be the one with the initiative
It’s no secret that, when it comes to making that first step, women expect men to do it regardless if it’s a relationship or sex. There are many couples out there that do this and where the woman simply waits for the guy to do something and when/if he doesn’t, she starts panicking that he doesn’t want her anymore, stress appears and the relationship degrades. This should not be the case at all.
So, try to be the one with the initiative and start the kinky session yourself. When you feel like it’s time, sneak up on him and surprise him with kisses and touches so that he clearly understands your intention. Trust us, he will be so happy that you finally started everything and he will want you to do this more often which is a very good and healthy thing.
2. Give him a wakeup call he’ll never forget
It’s morning, you are sleepy, but you know what you can do to give him a wakeup call that he will never forget? Initiate sex. You can start with oral and trust us, this is the way every man out there would want to wake up every day of his life. If you’ve never done this before it’s clearly the right time to start. You will not only take him by surprise, but he will quickly become the happiest guy alive. After that, it’s up to you to decide whether or not you want to go full speed ahead or stop there. The tease and the surprise are all that matter here and this will definitely not remain a one-time thing. He will want that all the time now. Still, keep him guessing and don’t turn it into a habit.
3. Go in the nude once in a while
Going around the house nude with only his shirt over your bare skin will drive him mad. You can do your chores or pretend to do them while he’s watching you bend over, brush up against him or grind on him, seemingly unintentional. Trust us, he will start following you around the house like a drooling puppy and won’t stop until he’s got you in the bedroom. Still, an even better idea would be to keep on teasing him and build up that tension. Just imagine when it will finally be released. You don’t have to be ashamed to play a little slutty once in a while for your man. After all, you are in the comfort of your own house, playing by your own rules. He will absolutely adore you for this surprise and will want it more often.
4. Dress up
We know we know… this is right up that cheesy corny alley, but admit it: it’s really fun to try in the bedroom! Let your imagination fly and dress up as various characters like a naughty maid, a sexy flight attendant or any other people that you may have noticed and would love to play as, like Joker and Harley Quinn. You don’t even have to have the exact costumes. The key here is to let your imagination run wild and experiment with role-playing. How these characters make you feel matters and the amazing sex that you are going to have after the curtains fall. Also, playing roles helps you get rid of inhibitions because it lets you become someone else. So, why not take advantage of that and do what you’ve always wanted to do in the bedroom?
5. Bring in some helpers
And by helpers, we don’t necessarily mean other people (although you can also do that if you’re into it, that would be a huge surprise), but accessories that will make your sex night even hotter. Try ice cubes for some extra pleasure, blindfolds for the element of surprise, feathers for the sensory part or even scented oils for a very sexy massage in the bedroom.
Surprise your lover with that ice cube trick where you hold it in your mouth and then go with it all over his body. For the grand finale, go even lower and perform that oral of his dreams while your mouth is still cold from the cube. Rest assured, he will never forget that.
6. Go really loud or really silent
Another very clever way to surprise your beloved in the bedroom is to go in the opposite direction. So, if you’re usually pretty loud during sex, surprise him by going really silent. Also, if you usually a very silent person go very loud this time but don’t overdo or fake it. Keep things natural and sexy. During the silent part of your intercourse you can even do that hot “shhh!” and cover his mouth with your finger. If he says something, punish him and vice versa. What do you think? Will he like that? We think he definitely will.
All in all, these are just a few sexy suggestions on how to surprise your lover in bed for a deeply connected sex. Of course, there are so many other things that you can both try. For example, have holiday-themed sex (for Christmas, for example), turn into a dominatrix, give him an amazing massage, let him watch you while you pleasure yourself, offer him a lap dance, be more vocal than usual, try new speeds and positions, have sex in an unusual place, and any other things.
The trick is to get out of your comfort zone and try to surprise him with something else. It doesn’t have to be anything too extreme if you don’t feel comfortable doing so, but just the smallest change will not go unnoticed. He will certainly appreciate the effort and reward you handsomely if you know what we mean… So, ready to try new things?
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé