You’ve got two options, leave it or revenge. There’s no third option when dealing with a narcissist. Either you say it’s your bad luck to have met him and walk away, or you stay and show him you’re strong and let him how it feels.
A major problem with narcissists is that they ignorantly don’t know how annoying and hurtful their actions and words are. No one would show them. Most people would just walk away because they can’t be bothered dealing with it.
You want to show the narcissist a taste of his own medicine, that’s normal. Good for you for taking this step and not backing down. A narcissist has got his weakness too. Aim for their ego and shoot hard, that’s how you get to them. Let them know how it feels.
10 Things That Hurt A Narcissist’s Ego The Most
1. Ignore them
They want recognition. They want to know they’re better than you, and potentially have control over you. Well, they don’t. You can easily show that by ignoring them. Don’t return their text and just walk past them with your head held high. Don’t even give them the slightest attention they want.
Show that what they say can’t get to you. Don’t show any emotions and just act like it’s nothing big. Narcissists will hunt down chances to make you feel bad. If ignoring them doesn’t work, if they will chase you down just to destroy your self-esteem, then just pretend you don’t care, which you actually really shouldn’t.
That’s right. They’re just full of crap. They think they’re so smart and that they’re better than others, when in fact, they’re full of bullshit. Say it to them directly. When they start blabbing about some random bullshit, ask them when they’re going to cut the crap and say something that’s actually scientifically-proven, not just what their smart asses believe in.
Narcissists hate being challenged since they think they know better than all. Getting called bullshit will surely hurt their narcissistic ego a lot.
4. Ask them for proof whenever they say something
Always challenge everything they say. If they say they know how to play guitar like a pro, tell them to show you in person. If they say no or find excuses, tell them they’re just a bunch of wussies. Take them to the guitar shop and tell them it’s time to show off. Either they’re actually a pro (chances are slim), or you will expose their narcissistic lying face in front of everyone. I bet that will feel really good.
Narcissists can’t handle being challenged because they’ve got no real power. Once challenged, they would be so embarrassed and try to bullshit their way through. Keep attacking their argument until the world knows they’re just a fraud.
5. Tell them to Google their questions
Another way a narcissist would bring you down is to ask questions that they think you wouldn’t know the answers to, thus showing they’re smarter than you. Don’t fall for it. Tell them to Google it themselves and walk away. Don’t waste time on them. Whatever they ask you, it’s not that they want to seek answers from you. They just want to humiliate you. Leave it.
6. Be sarcastic
“I thought someone as smart as you would give a more logical reasoning to your arguments.”
Be sarcastic. Mock them for being a smart ass. They will be really pissed and it will shrink their big ass narcissistic ego. They often want to be the sarcastic one. Knowing someone can be more sarcastic than they’re makes them doubt their self-worth, mission accomplished.
7. Don’t contact them
Don’t initiate anything with a narcissistic bastard. If you initiate to talk to them, they will think they can do anything to you and they won’t respect you. After all, after everything they did to you, why would you contact them first? It doesn’t matter why you want to contact them first, whether it is to reason with them or to yell at them, just don’t do it. I can tell you 10 out of 10 of the times, it’s not worth it.
Initiating contact with a narcissist shows dependence. You’re emotionally dependent on them. You might actually believe they’re better than you are. That’s how jerks get to you. You should just avoid getting into an argument with them. Refrain from any temptations to contact them first. They will feel small and unpopular because no one would talk to them first.
8. Laugh at them
What’s the best way to get back at a narcissist? Treat everything they say like a joke! Hurt them like how they hurt you. They laugh at what you say, well, do the same to them! Laugh at them in their face. Be as hysterical as you can. Don’t worry even if you look a bit crazy. Be crazier than your enemy.
Narcissists often treat themselves as the king of the world. They don’t care what others have to say, they think they’re the best. The only way to bring them down is to show that they’re not the best. You don’t buy it for one second. They’re ordinary and it’s just a joke that they think they’re the best.
9. Get their friends to turn against them
The most rewarding feeling ever. Turning a narcissist’s friend into your friend. Ask them why they would be friends with this narcissist, to begin with, and turn them. You really don’t need much skill to do this. What can the narcissist do really? If you succeed, you have one more friend and will piss off the narcissist. If you fail, no harm was done, not like you want to stay friends with any of them.
It’s a smart move because you have nothing to lose. You aren’t counting to be friends with either of them. That’s why you can go care-free and use all you’ve got.
10. Tell them you feel sorry for them
Seriously, I would feel really sorry for a narcissist because they don’t know how to act like a decent human being. It doesn’t even bother you. You can just get up and go and never see them again. Tell them you feel sorry for them because they are the only ones that have to live with their stupid self for the rest of their lives. For others, they can easily leave. But if they don’t change, they will have this obnoxious-self to accompany them forever.
For these people, just send your sympathy to them. This is probably what will hurt them the most. What they have been so proud of turns out to be so pity in someone else’s eyes.
How To Recover and Move On
Understandably, moving on from narcissists can be hard. Without a doubt, it makes you challenge yourself and your self-worth. You think maybe you did do something to deserve this. Otherwise, why would they pick someone as nice as you are?
Know this, getting picked on by a narcissist is like getting hit by a drunk driver while walking down the street. You didn’t choose it and he probably didn’t choose you too. You just happened to be there, at the wrong place at the wrong time, and you became the victim.
Narcissists are destructive to both other people and themselves. Of course, realistically speaking, we don’t care too much about them. We care about ourselves, we don’t want to get dragged down when they go down. Once you’ve realized you’re friends with a narcissist. It’s time to leave.
You have to convince yourself that it’s not your fault for attracting a narcissist. It didn’t have anything to do with you. It could literally happen to anyone. You can’t really blame yourself when a drunk driver hits you, blame the driver. Blame the narcissist himself and no one else. Once you’ve had that realization, moving on becomes a lot easier, because you’re no longer entangled in guilt and regret.
After this experience, you’ll be more conscious about people you make friends with. That’s a natural defense system and there’s nothing wrong with it. Pick friends that you’re comfortable with and stay with them. Remember, quality is always over quantity. You may come to a point where you feel you only have a few friends. But you will know that those are your friends by heart. They’re there for you no matter what. That’s what true friends do. Things That Hurt A Narcissist
Being a victim of a narcissist is a wrecking experience. Getting revenge on a narcissist is just soul-lifting and enchanting. It feels better than becoming a Disney princess. Narcissists are humans too. They have their weakness, especially with that gigantic ego of theirs. You want them to have a taste of their own medicine. You go for their ego. Follow our tips and time to kick your narcissistic friend in the ass today!
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. Things That Hurt A Narcissist’