If you find yourself in a codependent relationship, it’s important to acknowledge what’s happening and work to create a relationship where each person can stand on their own two feet.
You need to turn everything around. For example, if you feel alone and empty, instead of blaming your partner, go inside to see how you are treating yourself.
You have no control over your partner changing, but you have total control over you changing. Learning to love yourself and define your own worth can work wonders in your relationship.
I know it might be challenging to stop trying to get love and instead learn to see, value, and love yourself so that you have love to share with your partner. There is a huge difference between trying to get love versus wanting to share love.
When you want to get love, you are coming from an empty place of self-abandonment, and when you want to share love, you are feeling full of love from loving yourself, and the love spills over to your partner.
Even if just one of you decides to learn to love yourself rather than continue to reject and abandon yourself, you can change your codependent relationship to a loving relationship. When one person changes the codependent system, the whole system changes.
You actually can’t know whether or not you are with the right partner until you become the right partner.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé