People often try various things to make their relationships strong and healthy. They often come up with their theories and ways to strengthen their relationship and keep the spark alive.
But do you know that out of all the things that can harm your relationship, myths can also be a contributing factor?
Though you may think that you are doing your best to make things better and strengthen your relationship, you may end up realising that you took the wrong step.
In order to keep problems at bay and your relationship healthy, it is important to avoid believing myths related to relationships. To know what those myths could be, here’s a list you should watch out for:
1. “It is always love at first-sight”
You must have heard people saying that the first time they met their partner, they knew he/she was the one. But this doesn’t mean that everyone in the world will have a similar love encounter. It can be possible that you are attracted to a person in the first meeting but that may not be your love. You need to find out if the person truly values you, respects your likes, dislikes, opinions and personal space and is happy to be in your affinity.
2. “You must change for your partner’s happiness”
It is good to bring some positive changes in yourself but changing yourself entirely for your partner is something else. It shows that your partner isn’t ready to accept you the way you are. If your partner constantly asks you to change yourself in such a way that may make you lose your individuality, then this isn’t a good sign. You may leave your bad habits such as smoking, drinking or staying up late till night but changing your taste, fashion sense, hobbies and habits for the sake of your relationship is not a wise thing to do.
3. “In order to have trust, you need to share your passwords”
Do you think that sharing your social media credentials and ATM pins can strengthen your bond? Well, then you are probably wrong. You may think that this will help you in winning each other’s trust but that’s not true. You need to trust each other, even if you do not share your passwords. Asking your partner to share his/her passwords with you, isn’t a positive thing. This shows your insecurity and lack of trust in each other.
4. “Your partner should always be your priority”
Just because you have entered into a relationship and are truly in love with each other, that doesn’t mean your partner should be your priority. It could be possible that your partner has other priorities such as his/her career, household chores, parents and much more. There can be times when your partner may not be able to hang out with you because of an important meeting or busy schedule. In such cases, thinking that your partner doesn’t love you and considers you least important can create problems in your relationship.
5. “To love is to compromise”
Of course, there are times when you may have to compromise in your relationship. For example, you may have to eat the less spicy food that your partner cooks or adjust with the curtains that you do not like as much as your partner does. But that doesn’t mean you need to compromise on everything, including your self-respect and personal space. It can’t be true love if an individual has to compromise every time on every single thing. A relationship can become healthier only if both individuals are ready to put equal efforts.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé