In romantic relationship emotional connection is meant to build on the existence of things like trust, love, respect, communication, dependability and other nice traits people crave in partners.
In other words, intimacy is not built solely on sex. As a matter of fact, there are relationships wherein celibacy and deep intimacy ride side by side.
So, how does that work? How do you build an intense intimacy in your relationship without getting sexual with your boo?
1. Late night conversations
If you have been there before you know how profound, relaxing and therapeutic this is.
When the noise of the city dies down and the only voice you can hear is your bae’s. When the distractions are gone and every sound, every inflection of his deep, raspy voice reaches deep into your soul and every breath is pronounced.
Yes, that type of conversation. It works wonders and you really need to do more of it if you intend to be closer without having sex.
2. Cooking together
What else bonds people better than food? I mean, we all know how much bond people build over dinner, lunch dates and all that.
You can actually unlock a different level of this fun by making the meals… together.
It’s not even about the food most times. It’s the pleasurable experience of getting the ingredients together, and the companionship of spending time together, making those groceries into something edible.
3. Be vulnerable
You need to be vulnerable with your partner in order to feel accepted and understood. Being vulnerable can be uncomfortable, especially at first. Share your feelings, your worries, your fears, your excitement, your concerns, and your dreams with your partner.
Make an effort to have those uncomfortable conversations that you often try to avoid. Let your partner know when you are feeling hurt or insecure in your relationship. Your intimacy with your partner will increase when you believe you can be vulnerable with your partner.
4. Show appreciation
Saying please and thank you can go a long way towards helping your partner feel appreciated. When you feel that your partner appreciates you, it is easier to do the daily chores that help your household run more smoothly. Be specific and sincere with your praise.
Compliment your partner freely. Let them know what you love about them. Simple acts of kindness and words of praise can help you both feel more valued by the other. Feeling that your partner appreciates you helps strengthen your couple bond.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé