Have you ever asked yourself over and over again why you keep attracting douchbags?
We all love the idea of a bad boy, or the guy with tattoos, or the hottie who chain-smokes, or the one your parents don’t approve of, or that guy who looks just like your favorite rock star.
Or maybe you just prefer the guys who are super arrogant, and treat you like crap.
Whatever type of jerk you’ve been dating that has led you to always have unsuccessful and unhealthy relationships, it’s time you stop doing what you’ve been doing, because it’s obviously not doing you any favors.
There will come a time when you think that enough is enough, and that you deserve to be in a great relationship. But if you have no idea how to change your dating habits to attract healthier relationships, here are a couple of tips:
1. Stop being dramatic
If you are an open book to anyone and everyone that will listen to your love life, it’s time to stop. Stop being an overly dramatic open book on your social network. This is super unattractive, and the guys you want to actually date aren’t going to want to date you for several reasons.
For one, they don’t want to become just another status update that you bash, and they also don’t find it attractive that you air all your dirty laundry. If you need to vent, keep a diary, but not one on social media.
2. Have class
We all know those people who post half-naked photos on their social media accounts. Sure, posting a sultry photo on your Instagram or Facebook page might garner you tons of likes or comments, but it won’t get you the guy that is going to treat you right.
For one thing, most guys would be uncomfortable with dating a woman whose goods has been seen by almost everyone in her friends’ list. Not only that, but even though you have every right to post whatever you want to post online, wouldn’t you like to save something for the decent guy who’ll treat you right?
3. Be confident
The most common reason that girls continue to attract the losers is because they don’t know their self worth, and they don’t have the confidence. How do you except anyone to love you when you don’t love yourself? If you don’t appreciate yourself, no one else is going to. And if you let someone treat you like dirt, they will. You have to teach people how to treat you.
When you decide to love and appreciate yourself, that is when you will start to rid yourself of these unhealthy relationships.
4. Start saying yes more
If you’ve always been attracted to a certain type of guy, and ignored any guys out there who don’t fit your usual type, it’s time to give the other guys a chance. Just because you don’t find a guy immediately sexy, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give him a chance.
So start saying yes to the guys you normally write off for simply not being your type. For example, if you go on a first date with a guy and really don’t know how you feel about him, give him another chance. Try again! Just because you may not feel something right away, does not mean you won’t. Remember, in love and in life, it’s a marathon, not a sprint.
5. Set standards
I don’t mean having a list of 100 things you want in a man, but it is important to have a general idea of what you are looking for when it comes to love. Set standards, and think about all the things you want in a relationship that you clearly haven’t been getting.
Stand firm in your standards, and don’t let a guy have a free pass simply because he’s cute. Know what your non-negotiables are and always keep them in mind.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé