You deserve this.
What do women deserve in a relationship? Think about that for a moment. Think. Imagine it. Put yourself in her shoes and just think. Imagine you’re a woman, in a relationship with a man who just pays attention to you when he thinks he should, what would you feel about that? It’s just a general statement, no need for anyone to involve feminism or misogyny or anything else other than just emotions. Because emotions control our reactions and those reactions are what make up the basis of a human’s life.
We can’t suppress our emotions no matter how hard we try, and they rule our reactions to events. It’s not a one-way street, every action in a relationship will be treated with another reaction which in turn will lead to thousands of scenarios, each of them with good and bad events folded between them. It’s your choice on how to go on with it. So, what do you think now? What does she deserve? Love? Trust? Friendship? Companionship? What came into your head? Whatever it is, keep the thought there. Build on it.
What does a regular person, regardless of gender, deserve in a relationship? It should be applied to everyone. Whether it’s you or me or anyone else. But there are a few things that diverge in regards to gender, just a few that women need. And what they deserve. What is your answer? What do you think? While you think of that, go on and read what my opinion is on this particular piece.
I know that people have different perceptions when it comes to their needs. However, what are some of the basic things that are essential to make your relationship a healthy one? Is it appreciation or trust or honesty? Yes, these are the fundamental things that are required for any relationship to work and I have mentioned them in detail so that you know that what do these things mean.
Here are 5 essential things that every woman deserves in a relationship. These 5 things may differ in terms of importance depending on the woman, but they are still pretty essential.
1. A woman deserves to feel appreciated.
A woman’s job is never done. From sun up to sundown, most women have a ton of things to do along with keeping their man happy in a relationship. It makes a woman feel essential and special when you take the time to recognize all that she does. A simple, “Thank you for cooking dinner, I appreciate it”, can put a smile on her face. No woman wants to be in a relationship that she feels invisible in. Recognizing her efforts is the very fuel that can inspire her to keep doing more for you.
No one likes fake admiration. Sometimes, you need to put a little effort in complimenting your woman. Women do a lot for your children and your household and there are a lot of things that you can notice about them that deserves some sort of adulation. Women are superheroes and their work in not only restricted to physical exertion but they give emotional support and care to your children and to you also. They cater to your every need and know what things will set your mood off so it’s imperative that you compliment them on the efforts they make. That’s the least you can do for them.
Love is all about finding perfection in someone’s flaws.
It’s about making someone comfortable with who they are and making them believe in themselves and giving them the emotional support to reach newer heights in life. Love demands to be expressed. Sometimes, we can just compliment someone by our gestures and there is no need for verbal praise.
Some people are not good with words and are not good when it comes to expressing themselves but that does not mean that they are not good at loving someone. It’s just that different people have different ways of expressing their love. Some people prefer actions over verbal praise and others can just make you believe in yourself by just giving a warm embrace or staring into their eyes and letting you see a beautiful reflection of yourself.
Whatever the case may be and whatever your language of love is, make sure that you use it and your partner will decipher it because partners have a magnetic connection between them and they can interpret things which others cannot.
2. She deserves safety and security.
Whether you are providing a roof over her head or protection over her heart, every woman needs her safe haven. When a man can give a woman the reassurance that he will do anything to protect her heart, her well-being, and her spirit, it brings a sure level of peace over her. When a woman feels safe, she feels free. You can’t expect her to continue being your angel if you don’t create a heaven-like an environment for her to comfortably lay her head in.
Safety doesn’t just mean providing a house for your partner. Safety is of many kinds. You need to make sure that you do not hurt your partner emotionally and be careful about saying things that will discourage them and make them feel bad about themselves. This will make the relationship toxic and ultimately things will end badly for both of you.
Sometimes, we say things without even thinking for a second that what impact would they have on the other person. Words have the power to destroy another person and they leave an indelible mark on someone’s past. They can resonate in someone’s head for eternity and always make them feel inferior about themselves.
We live in a society that has very high standards of beauty. There was a time when humans were considerate and thought twice before saying someone or hurting someone’s feelings. We used to socialize and we made an effort to know people and listen to their stories and make them feel wanted. In this age, humans have become negligent to their own species.
When you are in a relationship, you need to make sure that if your partner is having a hard time fitting themselves in this bigoted society, you give her the necessary emotional support and the time so that they don’t feel alone.
Sometimes, a safe haven is not a home or a castle or private contractors. Sometimes, a safe haven is simply a person who you consider your home.
Someone, who you will ultimately travel back to when things get hard and the calamitous storms of abject fate hit you. You need a shelter to abate these unfortunate conditions and you can be that home for someone. You can be that place for someone where he or she feels safe and secure.
3. She needs to know which surety that she can trust her life partner.
A man will never reach the depths of a woman’s love if that woman cannot fully trust him. When a woman can lower her guard and love a man without holding anything back, that is truly when that man has earned all of her trust. It takes courage to love a man and sharing things with him that makes her sacred. Everyone doesn’t get to explore those levels of her love. You only reach that level of comfort with a woman when she can fully trust you. Earn her trust and you will tap into things that will inspire you in becoming a better man.
Trust is not just keeping someone’s deepest secrets. It’s about understanding someone without questioning them. Everyone has a tainted past that has left permanent scars inscribed in someone’s heart. You need to understand that you are not in a relationship with your partner in the past and the mistakes they made at that time.
You are in love with the person who you are with now. If you can’t accept someone’s past and the things they have gone through in that time period, then you shouldn’t be in a relationship with them in the first place. Love is all about knowing the person wholly and being okay with whoever they are.
You need to trust them and take a leap of faith when it comes to love. Maybe they’ll break your trust and maybe they won’t. The possibility of either of these things is there but when you love someone you need to have faith in someone and trust them to follow a path that will not poison your relationship.
Maybe, after meeting you, that person is completely changed and has sacrificed a lot to be this new person they are, just for you and you are still hell-bound on deprecating a person that doesn’t even exist anymore.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé