You might’ve had to do something for your guy at some point, which you didn’t want to do, but since he asked you, you just couldn’t say no. For some of you (the lucky ones), this might not happen often, but for others, it’s a completely different story. He might be making you do all sorts of things for him, and for some reason you’ve played your part of a pushover exceptionally well. If there’s something you don’t want to do, you’re justified to say no. It won’t make you a bad girlfriend. In fact, if he were a good guy, he wouldn’t be asking you to do any of the following things;
Taking care of his laundry
You’re not his mom! You don’t have to do his laundry. He’s more than capable of doing it himself. Helping him out, on the other hand, is a different story. If he has a little also much on his hands, then you might want to help him with a couple of chores. But don’t enable him. You’ll be responsible for the consequences. One thing would lead to another, and he might depend on you for much more than you signed up for. Plus, if you share the chores, you’ll both have more time to spend together. It’s a win0-win!
Getting people stuff on his behalf
If he has difficulty shopping, you should openheartedly offer help. But, don’t take it on yourself to run around arranging presents for him to give out. This is his responsibility, not yours. With a little practice, he might get good at it. But if you don’t allow him to do it in the first place, being the amazing girlfriend you’re, you might as well have to amaze him all the time.
Plan a getaway on your own
It’s a trip for two and it should be planned by both the people involved. His lack of participation only reflects his probable lack of interest. Plus, a guy who takes charge of things is attractive. Make him a part of the process. Don’t allow him to talk his way out of it.
Make him food
If he has time to ask for food, he has time to prepare it as well (everyone has time for food). It’s not your job to feed him. It’d be a good thing to take turns preparing meals or snacks. You can have what you want, and you’re constantly experiencing a variety of tastes.
Advertise your relationship on social media
Your social media is full of people that you may not even know so well. And your personal life shouldn’t be any of their business. So there’s no point in sharing your relationship status. The people, who should know, will know from you, in a proper manner. And the rest of the world isn’t concerned with your life.
Be his alarm clock
You’re a human being, not an alarm clock. Realize the difference! He’s been waking up at the desired time for long before you even came into his life. A change in relationship status does not mean a change in waking habits. If he’s sure that an alarm won’t be enough to wake him up, then you might do the honors, but definitely not all the time.
Sober up the drunk friends
Getting them home safely is one thing, but tending to them while they endlessly throw up on your carpet is not part of the deal. Its one thing you take care of him when he’s drunk, but taking care of his friend as well is simply pushing it. You have no such obligations.
Befriend his ex
Not exactly befriend, but get to know her more than you need to. It isn’t healthy. Satisfy your curiosity without forgetting that curiosity ultimately killed the cat.
Watch what he likes, all the time
If you have similar tastes, then it’s not a problem. But if they’re different, then there’s only so long that you can put up with watching the things they like. Try finding a common ground, something that you both can enjoy, together.
If he’s asking you to do it, it’s kind of insensitive. You might be planning on losing weight, but him pointing it out, or demanding you to do it, is downright embarrassing. He should love you for your personality, not your size. Even if he thinks you need to exercise, maybe he should make it a couple’s activity, to give you the needed motivation and support.
Keep long hair
Well, your hair length should be your choice, not his. If you can pull off short hair, he shouldn’t have any problems with that, instead, he should love it (or at least try). They don’t like it when you ask them to grow a beard or shave it off, they shouldn’t tell you what to do with your hair either.
Ladies, talk it out
Does your guy ask you to so any of the above mentioned things? Or something else? What else should go on this list? Let us know!
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé