We see it happen all the time, even the strongest and longest of relationships fail and fall apart completely. It occurs with the strongest of people because nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes. This is going to be both personal and general because I am going to mention a few instances on how one of these things affected my relationship.
These are going to be the six most common mistakes that end even the strongest of relationships.
1. Thinking your relationship is the source of all your happiness
Some people get so deeply involved in their relationships that they start seeing it as their only source of joy in the world. That burden is an impossible one to bare for any person regardless of how much they love you; no one should be seen as the source of all your happiness because no one will ever be able to live up to that level of expectation no matter the amount of love they have for you.
Always remember to find happiness in yourself before you go looking for pleasure in others. Be happy with who you are, with the life you live, with the obstacles you’ve tackled, and bring out the joy from all of these elements; then, you can SHARE that happiness with your partner for a very long-lasting and healthy relationship.
2. Thinking that broken trust can’t be brought back again
When someone breaks your faith, it hurts, it hurts more than we know to handle, but it happens, and we all go through it. But the key here is to remember how much you love the person; if you like them enough, then you need to have faith in the trust you can remake with your partner.
It’s not going to be an easy task, every next day your mind will tell you to stop working so hard on what can’t be fixed, but slowly and gradually the trust you two once made will come back, maybe not in the stainless form it once was in, but in a fixed state that can be groomed and made stronger than ever. So never lose the faith so quickly.
3. Thinking that relationships should be easy
Relationships aren’t easy; they are the hardest to maintain and stabilize for an extended period. When you want to love someone, be prepared for the world you’re entering, because it’s not an easy one in any sense of the word. Easy relationships end as quickly and as easily as they start. Genuine and pure relationships will have a LOT of ups and downs, maybe more downs than ups.
Authentic relationships also require a lot of sacrifice and change, change you might not like, so be prepared to change something about yourself when the time comes. Know that relationships are the most beautiful things in the world. Likewise, they’re also not a walk in the park.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé