You’re in the best relationship!
What does “true commitment” mean? Does it mean to say “I love you” to one another? Does it become committed when you move in together? Or when you make things official with the family? Real commitment means much more than that; it has a more pure meaning than that; it doesn’t have any standards or levels, but once it comes – it stays.
Here are ten of the most common signs you’re in a committed relationship.
1. Time shared is always time remembered
When you’re so in love with each other that you share a tremendous amount of time (without ruining each others’ social lives, mind you) and you think about each, and every second you spent with each other after every hangout, that’s where commitment comes in.
It tells you that the person is much more involved in your life, and you will enjoy each other’s company for years to come without the element of “boredom” ever making its way between the two of you.
2. Intelligent conversations, always interesting.
When you’re in a “committed relationship,” the conversations never get old or boring. Whether it’s about work, or friends, or family, or just plain everyday routine, every conversation keeps on extending without the two of you know. The concept of “OMG, look at the time” happens, when the two of you get so involved in the conversation that you forget how long you two spoke, such a relationship is bliss, sheer bliss.
3. You think about each other before making big decisions.
A committed relationship means that you are responsible for a lot of things, also the other person’s well-being. When you’re genuinely in love with one another, you will always think about them before making any significant decisions. For example, and this is purely from my own life, I was thinking about getting a new office for the business.
Now the way it is between the two of us is that we meet almost every other day, so I wanted to make sure my new office is near her place, so I’ll always be close when she needs me. Getting a new office was one of the most significant decisions of my life, and I didn’t think twice when I saw a beautiful property near her place. Some people might believe that such gestures will go unnoticed, they don’t.
4. You enhance each other’s social lives & circles.
This is something that demarcates a committed relationship from a weak one. I’ve mentioned this numerous times before that you CANNOT lose your own life because of the person you love, you can’t forget your friends. You can’t just give everything you have to your partner, your own “personal time,” and social life is significant for your integrity, and your partner should know that.
In a committed relationship, the two of you will try everything to enhance that. You will be helpful to each other’s friends; you will make sure each of you spends enough time with friends because that’s how we all grow – together.
5. You “mutually” plan a future together.
A committed relationship is one where both of you plan a future together “mutually.” I’ve seen so many relationships go down because people had different opinions about the future, some wanted to get married, some wanted to grow together and be more successful before getting married, there is a lot to think about before you start talking about the future. When the two of you have the same mindset about the future, you’re genuinely committed to each other.
6. You learn from one another.
One of the best parts of being in a committed relationship is that you show all of your vulnerabilities and learn from one another.
You guys may see me as some “relationships expert,” but I’m not. My girlfriend is the source of most of my wisdom, and she says I teach her something new every day, so in a way, we show each other, and neither of us accepts that they’re the teacher, it’s beautiful and mutual. When you truly love someone, you let your guard down; you let go of your ego, you don’t mind learning because you know they will never teach you something terrible for you.
7. Ego is out the window.
In a committed relationship, ego goes straight out the window. Yes, you will have pride, but that’s very different from ego. Never mix the two. You will never think of yourself above your partner, and your partner will do the same, you will see each other on the same level regardless of your backgrounds.
Let’s be blunt, my girlfriend belongs to a wealthy and noble family, and I don’t. I’m self-made, and my wealth doesn’t come from my family. So if she were egotistical, she would have treated me differently, but she never has, since day one. When you truly love one another, the ego doesn’t exist.
8. You travel together.
Do you love traveling with your partner? Is it mutual? You’re in a committed relationship. The rules are very different when you go with someone, you learn new things about the person, and you might not like everything you learn, but if you achieve perfect harmony in your travels, it means you two will last.
9. You feel “completely transparent” with each other.
Complete transparency is almost impossible to achieve because we are all very insecure people in general. But if you love each other enough to forget the insecurities and be completely open and transparent with one another, that’s when you’re in a truly committed relationship with each other.
And I’m not just talking about the small insecurities here; I’m talking about everything else when you two tell each other intimate things about yourself, something that only seemed appropriate when you were at the doctor’s office, that’s complete transparency. Transparency when your phones don’t exist anymore when the two of you don’t think twice before handing the other person your phone, that’s complete transparency.
10. You try doing more than you can for each other.
When you’re in a committed relationship, the term “100%” doesn’t matter anymore. You two will try to do as much as you can for each other, and it still won’t feel enough, this urge to keep doing more and more for one another leads to a very healthy and successful relationship, a real commitment that is very hard to find in today’s world.
If you match more than three of the characteristics mentioned above, DO NOT let go of your partner, no matter how hard it gets.
Question of the day
Are you in a committed relationship? Disclose me how it feels. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé