ReadВ these warning signs and leave the damaging relationship with your self-worth intact.
Long-lasting relationships are based on unconditional acceptance. However, seldom do we find such relationships. Especially when you are in your twenties, there will be many relationships that will not last because of the countless differences among the partners.
In the twenties, most girls are always on the hunt for a better and more compatible partner. Since they are not planning to settle down, it is easy for them to move on to the better thing. It is just the natural progression in life whether it is because of your bad habits or because your girlfriend didn’t want to settle for you when she could have had a better partner, either way, try not to take it personally. If possible, read the warning signs and leave the relationship with your self-worth intact.
As any relationship is headed for the crash and your girlfriend is thinking that she can find someone better, the following telltale signs appear:
She will try to control and change your habits
First, she will identify all the habits you have that she does not like. Then, she will slowly and systematically try to change those habits. For example, she might make you join the gym or train for a marathon. However, if she is the passive-aggressive kind of girl, she will always taunt you whenever you are doing something that she doesn’t appreciate or find appealing. For example, she will taunt you for having a night out with your guy friends.
Or, if she is the emotional kind. She will try to blackmail you emotionally to make you change your habits. She will do any or the combination of these things; She will throw tantrums, play the blame-game, stop talking to you, or will withhold intimacy to make you listen to her.
She gets annoyed and irritated
She is always looking for ways to get annoyed at you are irritated by the conversation. It is a clear sign that she wants someone better when she starts to inhibit her verbal communication with you. Even when you two are together, she spends most of her time in other activities such as using her phone, watching the television, or pretending to be busy with work.
What’s worse is that she will stop considering your feelings, thus making you feel devoid of worth and value. She will start treating you like an unwanted object that she doesn’t want around her anymore.
She wants to engage in activities alone
She is definitely looking for someone better if she starts to do things without you. Previously, she always wanted you to accompany her for shopping or running, she loved it when you hung out with her friends but now, she insists on having her independence to do everything alone. She is starting to spend a lot of time without you.
You no longer feel like a part of her day. She often asks for space now. In fact, she doesn’t even share all the highlights of her days with you because you are no longer a need or a priority.
She avoids intimacy
Both the physical and emotional intimacy fades from her side of the relationship. She doesn’t give you enough of either of those things. You do not get to have deep and long conversations about each other or where the relationship is heading and physical intimacy has become either rare. Even when she does show intimacy, you do not feel like she is connected to you like before.
She is taking extra care of herself and her wardrobe
You know things are about to get messy if she suddenly starts paying extra attention to herself. The saloon appointments have been on the rise and she is spending a lot of money on her wardrobe. These things seem pretty normal unless they are coupled with all the aforementioned signs.
She has stopped talking about the future
The relationship is definitely headed for a train wreck if she has stopped discussing or even mentioning the future with you. Whenever you try to talk about the future, she becomes evasive and changes the topic. Confronting her would mean that you will be blamed for suffocating her and not letting her be independent with her decisions. Trust us! There is no way out of this part. You can’t do anything if she has stopped seeing a future with you.
She tells you that she is unhappy
Most girls are very vocal about their unhappiness. She will frequently mention how unhappy she is in her life. In most cases, she will not point the finger at you directly but she sure won’t let any occasion go by where she can integrate her unhappiness into the conversation. You cannot force anyone to be happy with you, at this point, it is usually also late to save the relationship. If your partner is constantly unhappy with you, it’s time to gather up your self-worth and move on before she does.
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