By the end of each year everything that has had a negative impact on your life should come to an end too. Some habits, pains, addictions and people are just wrong for you and you need to let them go. 2012 was especiallyВ a hard year for me. I lost my job, almost broke up with my partner, lost most of my friends and had to witness deaths of many close ones. Let’s say that when I thought things couldn’t get any worse they managed to do just that. It was the hardest time of my life. I had gone through so much heart ache and pain that I decided to let some things go. Yes the change was hard to make but it transformed my life. I am so happy that I let those things go. Since then it has become kind of a tradition for me. On every 15TH of December I make a list of things I need to let go off by the end of each year I am almost done with the list. I must say life hasn’t ever been better.
Anything that you get addicted to is bad for you except of course your partner
I was addicted to watching television; I guess I was going through so much in my life that the best defense mechanism for me was to retreat to a world of fantasy. I soon realized that it took too much of me, I was blocking everything out and I shouldn’t have done that. I was investing too much of my time in something useless and pointless. It wasn’t until I blocked this habit out that I realized the amount of time I had on my hands. With the spare time on my hands I made efforts to change my life around and things started to get better.
Don’t hold on; speak out
If you need to say something to someone, say it and get it over with. You don’t know the amount of relief you will feel once you let out what’s in your heart. Go talk to a friend about how you feel and let it all out. You can cry if you want to and that’s okay. Humans cry; we wouldn’t have tear ducts if tears were not a part of us. Confront the person who makes you upset and tell them howВ they make you feel. If they are your friends, they will stick around no matter what you say. I confronted many people and found out there were a lot of misunderstandings. These confrontations saved me from taking a lot of bad decisions.
Forgive and let go
You need to forgive everyone who has brought suffering to you. It might not be the easiest thing to do but do it anyway. Once you have forgiving, forgetting will become a lot easier. How can you forget when you even haven’t forgiven?
Quit bad habits
Ask the people close to you to select one thing that they think you should doing, and quit it for good. My habit was eating with my mouth open, disgusting right? I didn’t even know I did it until they told me that this is what I needed to stop doing. Today I am proud to say that I am three years sober!
Lose four pounds, it’s not impossible to lose four pounds and once you start shedding those kilos it will become easier!
Let go of your anger
Write strongly worded letters to the people who anger you. You don’t need to post them just putting your feelings to paper would help you feel a bit more relaxed. Once you are done with that tear those letters and throw them away, because that part of your life is done for.
Let go of complexities
This might be the hardest thing to do. I was struggling with depression, to a point that I was suicidal. I was suffering from an extreme inferiority complex and trust me you are beautiful for what you are and you shouldn’t change a thing about yourself to please someone else! If the feeling of worthlessness is taking over your life, go seek medical help immediately! You will feel so much better. You deserve better, you need to stop thinking about things that make you anxious, and you need to stop criticising yourself! Want to know how much essential you are to someone and what you’re actually worth? Ask someone who loves you because who else would know better about you than them?
Let go of unhealthy relationships
You need to let the predators out of your life, because people who live off making others miserable actually exist! They have nothing good to offer you and no good will ever come to you from them. Display them out of your life and make sure you tell them that they are the actual losers!
This list will hopefully help you get your life back on track, it changed mine forever!
Talk to me
Have you made a list of things to do before the year ends? Share them with me in the comments below!
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé