There are people who even after spending years with someone, still are not sure if it’s the right time to get married. They not only know each other well enough, but also their families. They’ve faced and survived storms together. The love, respect, trust and loyalty hasn’t faded, it keeps growing with each passing day. Yet there’s some sort of concern that keeps them from going through with the wedding. It’s not that they don’t intend to do it somewhere down the line, but they think that they’re not ready yet.
It is indeed a life altering decision; getting married to someone. You don’t decide something like that over night. You should give it a great deal of time and thought. But most importantly, if it feels right, then go ahead with it. For those of you who can’t make up their minds, here are a few signs that may help.
You don’t miss dating
You don’t mind not dating anyone else, EVER! That rush you get when you start dating someone, the anticipation, the cute texts, skipping sleep just to talk to them are among so many other things, that you are willing to give up. If this is the case, then it’s as good a sign as any that you should marry them. – Continue reading on next page
The idea of marriage excites you more than it scares you
Whenever you think about it or the two of you talk about it, you focus on all the good things about marriage. You do understand that it’s not always going to be peachy, and it does concern you a bit, but you’re willing to go through with it anyway. You know that as long as you have each other, you can get through anything that is thrown your way.
No one from the opposite gender appeals to you the way they do
There are still plenty of fish in the sea, but you no longer have any interest in going fishing. You realize that there’s always going to be someone better out there. They may be better looking, smarter or funnier, but you’re sure that you’ll never find anything like what you have right now. What you and your partner have seems irreplaceable to you, hence making them irreplaceable as well.В – Continue reading on next page
You always sort things out
There are so many instances in a relationship where you don’t see eye to eye regarding things. This is to be expected, and is nothing out of the ordinary. Initially it may be difficult to accept and deal with, but with time you learn to let some things slide. In spite of the issue at hand, you both equally make efforts to get past them, not just because it’s the right thing to do, but because you actually want to do it. Moreover you never hesitate to apologize for your mistakes. And it’s not just one of you who always apologizes first. You two look at fights as a chance to make up, and do everything to make it special.
Near or distant, you picture them in your future
There’s never a time when you think of your future, and you don’t see them in it. Not only that, you talk about the future with them and how you want them to be a part of it. You want to go around the world, have a family and grow old together. You want to be there for them, and never want for them to have to face anything on their own.В – Continue reading on next page
They feel like a part of your family
When you’re in a long term relationship, you eventually meet each other’s families. It’s inevitable. In some cases it turns out to be your worst nightmare. While some of us are lucky to impart a good first and everlasting impression. Meeting the family always puts a lot of pressure on you. But all you have to do is treat them well, and make sure they know you have good intentions regarding your partner. It takes time to gain the trust and respect of their family, but it’s totally worth it.
Looking at them still stirs up something inside you
Apart from understanding, comfort and reliability, this is also essential. You’re as excited to see them as you were the first time. Even after all this time, they still leave the same impact on you. And the idea of seeing them first thing in the morning and the last thing at night further excites you.В – Continue reading on next page
You have found unconditional love
You both love each other at your best and at your worst, in fact even more at your worst. You provide each other support and strength, and stand with each other against the world. You push each other to outdo yourselves. Even when the relationship isn’t at its best, you never even for a single moment doubt the love that you have for each other. And that is the reason, why you always find your way through the rough patches.
They drive you crazy, but you want them all the same!
Despite their annoying habits, you just can’t help loving them. They might infuriate you, and you’d want them to change at least these things about them, but this doesn’t change how you feel about them. You might even lash out at them at times, but you still adore them with all their habits, regardless of how you feel about the habits.
So if you have been checking off all the signs you just read, what are you still waiting for! You want it, they want it, and probably a lot of people are telling you to get married already. There may never be the perfect time for your wedding; however the present is as good as it gets. You should be looking forward to married life. Know that you love them, and they love you back, and everything else will just fall into place. (Well not , weddings are a bit of a hustle, but you have to push through!)
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé