Plutonic relationships are very real. I, myself, have a lot of plutonic friends. I’m very close to those girls and I love them to bits, but it’s nowhere close to how I feel about my partner. There’s a huge difference between the two. A plutonic relationship involves two people of opposite genders who are very close to each other, minus the intimacy etc. It just means two people are very close friends and they know their limits.
Plutonic relationships are often frowned upon because one of the two partners starts getting jealous for all the wrong reasons. My ex used to get very weird around my female friends. Hold in mind that I’m an insanely sensitive guy and almost all of my time was devoted solely to her, but she still had problems when I used to spend even five minutes with my friends. The girl I’m in a relationship with right now is an absolute angel! She understands. This article is for the women who don’t understand.
Ladies, the key is to have faith in your partner and believe in the love you have for each other. That faith will not only help you conquer the fears that you have but will also make this unfavourable condition into an even better situation for you.
1. HIS BFF COULD BECOME MORE OF YOUR BFF
Don’t hold back from welcoming them in your life. Be nice to them. Do not instigate a fight, jealousy, envy or anything. There might be no need for you to be all that protective. Do not constantly keep having that small fear inside your head that they might one day start dating because they’re such close friends. If they wanted to date them anyway, they would be together.
Secondly, making them your best friend means that they will think twice before going behind your back to be with your partner. Developing a healthy and close bond with them will encourage a healthy conscience for them.
2. SHE WILL BACK YOU ON YOUR COMPLAINS FROM YOUR PARTNER
My plutonic friends know the weirdest details about me because we are such close friends. She will be one person who will agree with you and having your partner’s best friend on your side is the greatest influence you can have on your partner. Use this to your advantage for all the good reasons.В You should be thankful for that, if anything.
3. SHE CAN GIVE YOU THE MOST HELPFUL ADVICE
If and only if you have successfully accepted her in your life and let yourself be accepted by her. This woman, right there, can be the greatest advisor you can get. She will tell you the truth and will honestly tell you the right thing to do.
She will not only give you hope but will also tell you when to not have it. When to expect what and what not to expect. She will help you stay realistic and grounded, that will save you a lot of little heartbreaks that we have in our relationships.
4. SHE WILL ALWAYS KNOW WHAT TO GIFT YOUR PARTNER
She could help you out and tell you what he loves and hates. You can actually sit with her and have a light hearted chat about his most favourite and hated gifts he has ever received.
Also, you can also count on her when it comes to surprising your partner. She would be your go-to person also because she cares about him as well.
In short, take this opportunity and turn it in your favour, just because majority labels it as an unfavourable condition doesn’t mean it will be for you! It is all about how you treat that situation. And be mature about it, if you trust your partner then trust him completely.
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Ladies, how do you handle your partner’s plutonic friends? Let me know in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé