We often take small things less essential and don’t pay too much attention to the importance they hold.В Focusing on the little things and habits will actually make your relationships much stronger and healthier. A habit is a discrete behaviour that you do automatically and that takes little effort to maintain.
Thus, the first step to having a healthy relationship with your partner is that you need to work on these little habits that will not only make your relationship great but will also make you appreciate each other a lot more.
1. START WITH THOSE KIND WORDS’ WE LEARNED IN ELEMENTARY SCHOOLS
Thank you’, Sorry’, That’s so nice of you’ etc.
Be kind to your partner and appreciate the things they do for you. If you fail at something, acknowledge and apologiSe because that is the right thing to do. Don’t let your ego keep you away from doing the right and the kind thing.
2. ALWAYS ASK EACH OTHER ABOUT THEIR DAY
This is a very essential part of the day, though it might seem small but it gives you both some time alone with each other in which you are making them a part of all the times of the day when they weren’t there with you. This way you both are also sharing the things that are upsetting you or are essential to you.
3. STAY OUT OF EACH OTHER’S PASTS
Cease involving your pasts in every fight you both have. They tend to cause many more misunderstandings. They are petty things that deserved to be in the past that is why they are there. Don’t give them more importance than they deserve and focus on each other and the future.
4. COMMUNICATE MORE, IT IS NEVER ENOUGH
Hold building the communication between the two of you, don’t think that you have built it enough and you do not need it any further. You always need communication because it needs to be maintained which asks for attention. Excellent communication is the key to a long healthy relationship.
5. RESPECT AND BE RESPECTED
Respect each other’s words, thoughts, aims, personalities and limits. All of these are highly essential and make your partner who they are.В Crossing the limits, when emotional, can cause irreversible damage. Also, once you disrespect your partner, it is only downhill from there.
6. DO ACTIVITIES THAT YOU BOTH LIKE
Doing activities is a silent conditioning that is taking place. This conditioning reinforces the kind of compatibility you have with each other. Similar choices gives you two a greater chance to put more effort and make this relationship an everlasting one.
7. MAKE IT A POINT THAT OTHERS KNOW WHAT YOUR PARTNER MEANS TO YOU
Design sure that your friends and family know your partner’s importance in your life and they are given the kind of importance you want them to receive or what they deserve.
8. LISTEN MORE TO YOUR HEART AND LESS TO YOU FRIENDS
There are only two people in the relationship and that is you and your partner. Do not make it an intervention by involving your friends. The way you know your partner, no one else does and the one person you should trust, when it comes to your partner, is YOU!В So listen to your heart if there are a few concerns and do as your heart says.
9. STOP COMPARING WITH OTHERS
Don’t put the pressure of matching up the capabilities of someone you admire or the society appreciates more. Don’t crush them under that burden. They are unique, special and beautiful in their own way and you need to embrace them as they are. That’s how you met them and that is how you fell in love them, then why try and change them?
10. DON’T TAKE THEM FOR GRANTED
If your partner does things for you to make you happy that doesn’t mean that you let them solely manage that area of the relationship. Be an equal contributor to the relationship so that both the partners find themselves at the giving and the receiving end, both.
These small habits will add so much to your relationship. It will magically transform itself and will prove to be healthier and a lot more rewarding. You just have to stay patient and consistent!
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What habit brings you and your partner closer? Let me know in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé