Relationships are built on trust, compromise and sacrifice and without these attributes, they just do not work. People want security in a relationship alongside love. Relationships are a long term commitment and it takes more than just a couple of things to settle down.
If you feel secure around someone then you are willing to spend the rest of your life with them without any hesitation. However, that is not enough to be with someone for the rest of your life. It takes a lot more than that.
Here are some of the things that show that you are ready to settle down with someone.
1. No pressure
Exceeding expectations can be destructive in a relationship and although everyone deserves all the love and respect in the world, we are only human and sometimes we are unable to fulfil all the wishes of our partners. If your partner is okay with the little things you do and doesn’t pressurise you to go overboard, then you will feel comfortable in your skin. You will feel more optimistic in their presence. This encourages you to settle down with them.
In the start of a relationship, we think twice about uttering a word because we don’t know our partner that well and we aren’t sure about the reaction we will get from them. However, as time passes by, we don’t have to nod to their every sentence. You get so used to each other and you know that you can be honest if you don’t like an opinion or a joke. You still have to respect their opinionated and humorous nature and avoid banter at all times.
We don’t have to sacrifice sure desires if the other person doesn’t reciprocate love. However, there are some sacrifices that we are willing to do for the ones we love. When you want to set aside your longings just to see them happy, then you know that is the person you want to settle down with. We live in a cruel world and people are selfish but there is nothing more beautiful than selflessness in a relationship. It helps to provide the much needed support in difficult situations. It encourages individual growth which strengthens the bond between you and your partner.
4. Self-confidence and security
We all have little fragile insecurities and no one can deny that but when we trust someone, we know that no matter what, they will never break our trust. When you feel secure about yourself, this brings a lot of positive vibes to the relationship. There is this gut instinct that your partner might talk to other people and interact with them and he may need his space but at the end of the day, his true allegiance lies with you.
5. When You love each other’s quirks and weirdness
We aren’t comfortable with anyone’s weird habits and uncanny behavior at the start of the relationship and these things might also turn people off at times but when you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, you are comfortable with everything they do. You start to miss these silly habits when they are not around.
6. No Constant whining
Some people are always depressed and they make a mountain out of a mole hill and this brings a lot of negative vibes in the relationship. Sure, people have problems when it comes to relationships but constant whining only creates distance. This shows that they are not in love but are just clinging on to each other, reluctantly. When you know that your partner does not constantly complain about sure things and is happy with what he or she has, then you know that you can face any difficulty alongside them.
7. You were sure you never wanted anyone else
There was no pressure to be with your partner and they were never any conditions to begin with. It was quite simple, you loved them and at the end of the day, you just didn’t want anyone except them. There were no guessing games and you both knew that you are a perfect fit. You could do anything to be with them and it didn’t matter if it all broke down, you just had to do all the amends to be with them.
8. You get each other
You just know about each other’s mood swings and things that might turn the other person off. You know when your partner is not in a good mood or they are trying to signal something.
Sometimes, you even know about sure things they are going to say at sure moments. You are synchronised with each other and even when there’s some sort of distance between you, you just want to be with them no matter what. Theirs is this insane magnetic pull that is irresistible.
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So have you found someone who you want to settle down with?В Let me know in the comments below!
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé