Sometimes, in a relationship, you get that feeling that you are just bored of the other person. Well, this isn’t an alarming situation, to be very frank. It’s human nature to switch off after sometime. If you love someone, you’ll endure this phase long enough to trigger all the butterflies in your stomach again. Love is tiring and exciting and adventurous and a rollercoaster of emotions, so hop on and enjoy the ride.
Although, you have to try to get over this feeling of monotony and do things that are exhilarating for you and your partner.
Here are some things to get you in the mood.
Maybe it’s you and not them
Most people don’t realize that they are ceasing their individual growth at times. They stop doing newer things and exploring and socializing. When they stop looking for newer adventures to embark upon, there is a big chance that they will become bored in everyday routine as well.
When a person’s mind is closed off because of the same recurrent cycle of activities, he will be out of ideas to make his life more intriguing. Sometimes, you just need to rediscover yourself to stimulate the same spark in your relationship.
Get in touch with nature
There is this positive energy in nature that just transfuses into you. When mountains are silhouetted against the sky or when the sun bathes your body with its intermittent light, your brain starts to show some paranormal activity. Nature is bewitching but the magic it casts upon you can be intensified by your partner’s presence. You just have to try and keep an open mind as nature drives you on to better moments.
Trust me, the key to satisfaction is within you and nature only helps your interiors to activate themselves. If you are reluctant to find yourself then no one can help you.
Get in touch with your memories
There are always some things that attracted you towards each other in the first place. For instance, if you liked watching some movie together when you started dating or you always met up in some place, you can do these things again. What this does is remind you of the reasons you actually fell in love with someone in the first place.
If the past has the power to destroy you, then it also has power to heal your relationship. It just depends on how you intend to approach it.
Get out of your comfort zone
The comfort zone is not the best place to be in all the time. You need to do some crazy stuff together, at times, to make it more interesting. This principle just doesn’t apply to relationships but to all sorts of people in all walks of life. Life is not about being safe, it’s about taking risks and learning new things and moving on to newer adventures.
Sitting around all day with your partner and watching the same bland faces which have become tired of each other is a very terrifying sight. Get out and trash your neighbours or ring their house bells and flee towards a joyous moment. Being childish isn’t bad. Wrinkles may appear on our skin but our brain should be immortal. There should be moments when you feel infinite.
Instil in yourself the ability to share silence
Most of us have watched Pulp fiction and one of the characters may not have said this any better,
Don’t you hate that? Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it’s necessary to yak about bullsh*t in order to be comfortable? That’s when you know you’ve found somebody special. When you can just shut the f*ck up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence.
You have to acknowledge the fact that it is okay to be boring at times. You don’t always have to expect something extraordinary from a person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Sometimes, you just learn to give them the necessary space and the opportunity to come up with a moment of ecstasy. Meanwhile, you also try your best to provide the same for them but never push it or overdo it. It will, of course, come to you when you are least expecting it.
Forrest’s mama always used to say,
Life is a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get.”
Just be blunt
Sometimes, relationships can become boring and uninteresting because there are some misconceptions and misunderstandings between people in a relationship. They start to assume stuff in their minds like maybe the other person has lost interest and it’s time to let go yourself.
Instead of making assumptions, just ask your significant other, is he or she the same page as you? What is going on through their head? This is always the better option, trust me.
Talk to me
So, have you tried any of these things to evict all the emptiness in your heart?
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé