Every “successful relationship” needs to undergo trials of disagreement to survive.
It’s common knowledge by now that relationships aren’t the Disney-brand of perfection that’s portrayed in the movies. There is a lot of nitty-gritty in relationships that are going on behind the scenes. Underneath all the glamor of love and passion, there are ugly arguments and conflicts.
Every couple goes through the trials of disagreement. Arguments are perfectly normal facets of any relationship. They shouldn’t necessarily be causes for worry. In fact, arguments have their positive places in any relationship. Some could even make the case that every successful relationship needs to undergo trials of disagreement to survive.
Here are a few simple reasons as to why fighting with each other could be good for your relationship:
1. Arguments Mean That You’re Comfortable with Being Honest with Each Other Even If It Means You’ll Cease up Fighting for It
Honesty is an absolutely vital part of any relationship. A relationship built on lies is one that will not last. When you’re in a loving and nurturing relationship, you should practically be open books to each other. You can’t afford to break each other’s trust by engaging in practices of dishonesty. This is why arguments aren’t necessarily a bad thing. A lot of times, arguments arise out of a result of honesty.
You don’t want to lie to each other even if it means you’re trying to spare each other from getting hurt, and so you tell the truth. And the truth can hurt. Any emotional pain instigated by a harsh truth can spark a legitimate argument but you don’t need to worry. If your relationship is strong enough to maintain high levels of honesty, then it is also strong enough to weather the storms of an argument.
2. It Means That Neither Of You Intimidates One Another
Neither of you is a weak human being. You are both strong and independent individuals who can stand your own grounds. You have the ability to defend yourself against threats. When the necessity of an argument comes along, you don’t back down from the challenge because you are confident in your abilities to make a stand. You do not cower to each other, and so you know that you can rely on each other whenever you need to face the world together. You’re optimistic about facing the future knowing you have a partner who will stand right beside you and never back down.
3. Arguments Aid You Grow As Individuals
Arguments can also be seen as opportunities for growth. You will undoubtedly make the occasional mistake and you must be called out on it. Your partners will have their share of blunders and you must call them out on it as well. Argue with them and criticize their faults. Learn from criticism and grow to become a better-rounded individual. The key here is in maintaining healthy and open lines of communication. You always want to be sensitive to each other’s feelings even when you’re arguing. Know the limits of your arguments and take any learning moments as opportunities for growth and improvement.
4. Arguments Are Memories Worth Holding
Relationships are essentially made up of a series of memories that two people share. Those memories can either be good or bad, but they contribute a whole lot when it comes to shaping your relationship. Any moments or memories that you share are precious and you should never forget that. It’s a privilege to be in such a strong and loving relationship, so you have to learn how to accept all facets of it: the good and the bad.
Your arguments are part of what makes your relationship special and worth fighting for. Be thankful that you have occasional disagreements because it means that you’re confident in having a relationship that can withstand tough times. These arguments are temporary and will be nothing but memories in the future.
5. The Depraved Times Aid You Acquire More Appreciation for the Recedeod Times
Life is always about maintaining a healthy balance. Everything in moderation, right? Consider your arguments and rough patches as a way of balancing out everything good that’s happening in your relationship. When you have to go through struggles as a couple, it just makes your good moments together all the more precious. You will end up developing a deeper appreciation for each other and the good times that you have together. The night is always darkest just before the dawn, and both have their places in time.
6. It Leaves No Room For Ego In The Relationship
Forget about arrogance, narcissism, and conceitedness. When you’re in a relationship that has occasional arguments, it can be good for your ego. You need someone to be there who will keep your feet on the ground when your head is in the clouds. Arguments help deflate any overbearing egos that you might be carrying, and that can help you become a better person overall.
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