Why do most women fall for the worst of guys when good men are waiting for them?
Why do women have to have at least one bad experience before finding the right man for them? What explains their weird and unjustified interest in guys who are not right for them and can be classified as playboys or bad guys’?
Before learning the lesson and taking interest in the right kind of guys, women tend to waste their time after those I-am-not-ready-for-anything-serious kinds of guys. There is something about these players that attracts women to them despite the clear signs of them being time-wasters.
Here are all the reasons why women fall in love with the wrong guys:
Relationships with bad guys are like loops; they give you attention, a lot of it, then take it away and make you beg for it until they decide to give it back. Depraved guys make sure you run after them and no matter how much you hate it, you signed up for it, for them, so you keep chasing them. When, after the long run, you finally get them back, that happiness is what makes you want to do it again and every other time he runs away.
He is the popular guy; most wanted by every girl and YOU got his attention. That fact alone boosts your self-esteem and makes you feel great about yourself. It even motivates you to do everything to keep him.
Dating a popular guy is like winning a challenge, and when you have won that challenge and experienced the thrill of it, you don’t find it worthwhile to go back.
Nice Is Boring:
Our guilty pleasures don’t make us feel so guilty, do they? There is something inherently boring about nice things; they are plain with no ups and downs to make us feel alive. Although there can be committed relationships with fun but the fun is a lot easier to attain with guys who don’t care. Girls fall in love with such guys in hopes of changing their minds while having all the fun, only to be told at the end that it is time we part ways’. And then they cry which is only partially justifiable.
The adrenaline rush and those absolutely thrilling dates which you know will be followed by amazing sex are what make women look past the good guys. Either good guys need to up their game or women need to be a little patient to have fun.
They Are Hotter:
Women tend to associate physical attractiveness with good skills in bed which is a major reason for their interest in the bad, popular guys. They are hot and condescending and that is enough for some to forget about every other guy they have met no matter how nice. Some women have life is also short’ philosophy which does not let them be with guys who take also long to take them to the bedroom.
Everybody wants a lifelong love but what they also want is someone who would explore their lustful side, their sexualities with them. All of it comes gift-wrapped with a bad guy that can be availed at the beginning of the relationship because, usually, there is no happy ending to such lustful relationships. Hot guys are eye candies and you can’t lick a candy forever.
They Are A Challenge:
Once familiar with the arrogant, also cool to care’ guy, girls take it as a challenge to change the way they are. They want to tame the shrewd and make a perfect love story while doing so, where the guy who did not believe in love before has now fallen in love with the same girl who he loathed. Women know, also, that they are stepping in the wrong room but they do it anyway in hopes of making it right before stepping out, only that happens very rarely and it is she who gets hurt big time.
The challenge’ is also what attracts them and makes them take it. They put their own likeability to test by trying it with the guy who rarely likes anybody. Dinky do they know: the guy, by liking her, will only be playing games with her and she will never be loved.
Some Never Learn:
After all the drama and being left heartbroken by jerk(s), some women never learn the lesson and end up falling for the same kind of guy again. Most tragically, some end up marrying such guys while the world sees and sympathizes with her. Such women keep forgiving the shortcomings and faults of such men lowering their self-respect all in the name of love. Like is blind, indeed, but you should never let it make you dumb enough to not see what is happening.
What made men the way they are is a whole different story. There are bad fish in the sea but you can always build a taste for the good ones and be able to tell the difference between the two. And if you think that you are love-struck with the wrong guy, try to pull out and imagine how much better you would love the right guy.
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