Long-distance relationships, please stand up!
I’ve always believed that four walls do not make up a home. I’ve always found homes in people. There is always someone out there who, despite everything and whatever the circumstances might be, accepts you back into their life and shelters you from the atrocities of this harsh life and self-inflicted mistakes. I call that person, my home. But what if your home lives in another town or country? A person without a home feels lost and neglected.
Long distance relationships are hard. Every human craves attention and with the advancement of technology, there are several things that have tried to limit that distance, but we humans are sentient beings. We need someone to caress our foreheads and make us feel wanted by giving us a warm hug.
Despite all that, if the person is worth it, if that person means the world to you, then you need to struggle for them. Here are some ways you can make that struggle less painful.
1. Design your partner feel wanted
The human head is a terrifying mess. Sometimes, we’re just having a cup of coffee and out of nowhere a thought pops up in our head and ruins the whole day. In a long distance relationship, you are never sure what the partner is actually going through. You have to clear up your head and eradicate all sorts of assumptions and unsureties from your head. You need to make your partner feel wanted.
Disclose them that you can’t wait for them to get back and you look forward to meeting up in the future and how you are excited to see their magical smile that can light up the world. Never hold yourself from expressing what you feel. A dearth of communication can kill your relationship.
2. More trust and Limited judgments
Envy is one of the seven deadly sins for a reason.
People in long distance relationships tend to get jealous very easily. Even if you’re interacting with a person who you have no interest in, your partner will start thinking and wander off to unfamiliar lands inside their brain.
Your partner will start asking questions and this will create a breach of trust in your relationship. In love, always trust more and don’t be hasty in reaching to conclusions without being sure.
3. Do things together
Everyone has their interests. Who doesn’t like music? Just set up a Skype call and sing songs or listen to them together. Some girlfriends are cool. Do you love online gaming? Are you into Counter Strike or any other similar game? Well, you can play with your boyfriend and trust me, he will love it. Are you a guy who’s into some girly stuff? Well, if you are not, you have to make some interest to be a part of her life. You could open up a bog together or any similar thing.
The most essential thing is to create memories because at the end of the day, all we have are our memories. Memories strengthen every bond and they have the power to resurrect every relationship. Yeah sure, they are destructive as well but everything has a dark side. – Continue reading on the next page
Honesty is very essential in a relationship, it goes without saying. There is another kind of honesty though. The type of honesty that is not synonymous with the truth. You don’t have to disclose information that will incite your partner.
Are you sitting with a hot friend of yours? Only tell about her or him if you are sure that she will be your friend in the future as well. If it’s only a one-time thing and you are just going to meet her once in your life, you don’t have to mention her.
However, being honest to you is very essential as well. Do not lie to yourself about how you feel about your partner.
If you are feeling that you are getting distant and are not getting the attention from your partner, then don’t lie to yourself that everything will be better with time, go meet them or tell them how you feel. Time only heals your soul if you do your part of the effort.
5. Send gifts or letters
I know this is the 21st century but, trust me, when something appears in your mailbox; it definitely has a different feel. It makes the other person realize that you did the effort on your part. Also, surprising your partner can help you a lot. It will keep them interested. No one expects a love letter in this age. Do the unexpected!
The other thing is gifts. From giving, we receive. Every gift has a sentimental value. Sometimes, materialistic things can create love. I know it sounds stupid. Your gift doesn’t have to be a Lamborghini Gallardo, pfft, well, that would be something huh? All I’m saying is that your effort to give something to you partner will matter to them and exalt your love in their eyes. I once sent a scotch tape and we still laugh about it.
In the end, I just want to say that if you love your partner, you will find ways to be with them. You will find the strength to keep your relationship alive.
You just have to trust your abilities and one day after all this distance, when your partner is finally in front of your eyes; you will know it in your heart that he or she was worth the wait.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé