So you like someone a lot and you begin to wonder if they like you too, maybe.
That is where the needle gets stuck at, most of the time. In the happy scenario, you will know because that person will tell you so. In the not so happy and less direct scenario, though, you will be left wondering about that question and worry yourself in the process.
According to a girl’s perspective, it is the guys who are the ones that are pretty hard to read most of the time. But here we have switched it up a bit and put things from a girl’s perspective. So here are a couple of helpful tips that might show you when a girl is just not that into you in place of your usual, run-of-the-mill he’s just not that into you maxim.
When she says I’m just not ready for a relationship yet’
What she means is: I’m just not that into you.
When a guy gets this line from a girl he likes a lot, it actually means she is not ready to be in a relationship with him. When the girl genuinely likes him, she will simply want to spend time with him. And eventually, that will escalate to a lot of time.
But if this is her response even after he asks her out simply for a date or trying to and she straight out refuses, it means she is just not that into you.
When she says I think I ought to focus on myself more right now’
What she means is: I want to remain single than be with you.
You don’t have to take this personally but when the girl gives you this one-liner, she downright means that you both are not compatible. Girls usually know from the second they see you if you are or might turn out to be boyfriend material or not female intuition works like that and sure, the first impression might not be the last one and can sometimes be changed, but usually, this is how it goes that by the time you start talking, she has already made up her mind about whether you two will click or not.
She is most likely looking for someone who will make her want to stop focusing and finding herself, and maybe you are not that kind of guy for her just yet.
When she says I just don’t see you that way’ or I like you, just not in that way’
What she means is: You are in the friend-zone.
This is, one can assume, the red zone for guys when it comes to dating. It’s kind of sad, to see a guy like a girl just to be placed in the friend zone. It is a tricky place, one from which only a few manage to come back wholehearted. And truth be told, there are basically two major reasons guys get friend-zoned.
One, they might not be attractive enough just to that specific girl. And two, they might not be boyfriend material according to her. Don’t take this personally. You might be a real hunk of a man, but let’s not forget that attractiveness is a subjective factor for women.
It depends upon a lot of factors that vary from person to person, from different age groups, and so forth.
If one girl finds bulky guys attracted, another might find skinny nerds to be very hot and so forth. So when a girl gives you the signal that you are in the friend-zone for her, know she means she is just not that into you.
When she says This is not the time for me to be in a relationship, but perhaps in the future.’
What she means is: I still don’t want to be in a relationship with you right now, but do carry on boosting my ego to date others.
This is also a major sign that the girl is not into you. She is not just uninterested in you as of the moment, but she is also kind of using you to acquire the male attention and interest she wants coming her way to feel better about herself to feel like she is dating material after all. She might take all the presents you so lavishly give her.
She might receive the compliments you throw her way with sweet comments and gestures. She might also appreciate the reasons you like her for only to take it all for granted in the end just because she needs that boost for her own ego, to know she is worth dating and can move on to someone else.
She will walk with you under the moonlight, but will not date you. What more could it mean than the fact that she is not into you?
When she says I am already seeing someone’ (even though you know for a fact that she is not)
What she means: Please stop bothering me or I will make my so-called imaginary boyfriend deal with you himself.
It is quite common that sometimes, girls like to come up with their fake relationship statuses and fake boyfriends, for various and complicated reasons.
One reason would be that they are just plain sick and tired of cheesy pickup lines and want to cut it short, to make it real, and actually mean something when the guy says it.
The second reason is that they do not think the guy who is hitting on them even deserves the chance to date them. The third reason is that they do not want to hurt the guys’ feelings and they are afraid of telling him that they are just not that into him.
Girls then see the whole already-committed charade as an easy way out to turn down a guy who they are just not into.
When she is not answering his calls/calling back nor replying to his messages.
What she means is: Just take the hint and leave me alone.’
So you have called her on a Saturday and it is already next Saturday but you still have not heard anything from her it is pretty clear that she is not interested in you.
The matter speaks for itself after all: when someone is genuinely interested in you, they would at least call you back if they were busy at first.
But showing no interest amounts to their lack of response. A girl who is interested in a guy will evidently pick up his phone call, call back when necessary, and text when she gets a chance to. And if she is interested in him, she will keep her phone close by at all times at the thought of receiving a phone call or text.
Furthermore, if she is obsessed with him, expect her to reply/answer within 2 seconds of receiving a call or text.
So it is pretty evident that when she gives you the no response attitude, you should move on to someone actually interested in you, rather than wasting your time.
She might also give you the I’m too busy response when she does. Even if she isn’t, she will tell the guy that. The truth of the matter is, no one is ever busy. It is more a matter of priorities and such.
When she reads your message but still doesn’t bother replying.
What she means is: Yes, I read what you said but I have no interest whatsoever in replying now or ever.’
This is probably the worst of the scenarios when it comes to a girl not being interested in the guy. She will be active on social media, checking her messages back and forth but still is not replying to you. Hold the hint right there and then and know she is just not that into you.
When she says I’m busy this week.
What she means is: It’s not that I hate you but I just don’t feel like hanging out with anyone…. including you.’
This is the excuse generally made by those modern busy girls. Sure, many of them truly are, having to balance a full-time job with other projects and family. But don’t miss the point here. If she is busy, will she be busy for the rest of her days? She could tell you the next time she will be free so that you both can hang out.
But if she does not tell you when she will be available like, for example, I’m busy this week but let’s hang out next weekend?’ then it is like saying she will be busy permanently for you. Because she is simply not interested in you and deems it unnecessary to even let you know when she will be free.
When she says I’m sick’ but you see her hanging out at a club or some other place
ЁWhat she means is: So this is how I want to spend my day/night and it is not with you.
Seems pretty self-explanatory, doesn’t it? She blows you off in the name of being unwell and such but then you see her enjoying herself in some other place, with other people not with you. A slap in the face, it is a direct sign she is not into you and would rather spend her night out somewhere else than with you.
When she avoids doing something you ask her or is never seen around when needed.
What she means is: Maybe if I’m bored or have nothing else better to do, I will do it or maybe not, I don’t know.
So when she avoids being with you like this, avoids doing something for you when you ask her to, and is never actually sure what or when to do something for your sake, it’s a clear sign she’s not interested in you.
If she digs you, she will do anything for you that means she gets time to spend with you. Otherwise, she will avoid doing anything for you because being with you is not in her interest.
This is just the case. Most girls know clear-cut from the start if they are into someone or not. They will show clear signs that they are interested in the guy, such as flirting, calling, Facebook likes, etc.
But if she is not that interested in you despite how much fun you both were having on that weekend or how you both like the same music and want the same kind of desserts after dinner she’ll avoid you at all costs, make time for everything and everyone but you. When this happens, know upfront she’s just not that into you.