Is she about to leave you?
You will evidently be notified and informed of the reasons before your wife or girlfriend plans to leave you but you will wish you had seen it coming. Fractureups hurt badly; it’s a universally known fact since love carries pain and heartbreak in its pockets. When she quietly decides that she is done with the relationship but is not yet ready to confront you about it or is hesitating for some other reason, she might unknowingly show some signs of disinterest that can help you smell what’s cooking.
Like we said, breaking up comes with a lot of pain so these premature signs of her leaving you anytime soon might buckle you up, mentally, for what’s coming up next, although we hope you never have to look for them.
1. When You’re The Last One To Know:
Like Enrique Iglesias hypothetically asked in his Ping Pong Song,
Do you know what it feels like to be the last one to know the lock on the door has changed?
You will know how it feels when your girlfriend/wife starts pulling away. Their good news will reach to you last of all and like average news. You will fall down on her priority list when she decides that telling you everything is not so essential now.
2. When Sexy Talk isn’t Reciprocated:
When she comes out of the shower and you give her the sexy stare only to get ignored in reply. When you text her to tell her how you can’t wait to get home only to be shut down with a haha’ or so.
Her hesitation in this matter can mean a lot of things including this: she is planning to shut it all down once and for all, because hey, to be frank, sexy talk is what keeps us going, isn’t it?
3. She Changes:
Remember when she used to say I’d never go to a mall for just window shopping but is now canceling on you to go window shopping with her friend? That’s called avoiding’, something that people do when they don’t want to be with you. In a nutshell, you will observe her doing absurd things; things she never did before just for the sake of keeping a distance from you.
4. She Really, Actually Changes:
Those were her habits changing but if she, as a person, acts differently then something is fishy. If she was the cheery kind who lit up at the mere thought of taking a light walk on the beach or visiting a family friend who has a cute dog but nothing makes her dance around now as long as you are around, she has evidently something serious going on her mind. It can be called the quiet before the storm.
5. You’re leaving? Excellent:
She gets happy when you leave now, unlike old times when she never wanted you to go away or move even an inch away from her. This is very easy to tell especially if your girl was the stay-one-more-minute kind and was always into hugging and holding hands etc. If she stops reacting when you leave or tell her that you won’t be able to contact her for a while, she has either something very essential on her mind or she just doesn’t give a damn.
6. She Gives Up:
That little argument you two always have that doesn’t lead anywhere but you have it anyway? She doesn’t put the effort into it anymore. It is all so useless to her now that she decides to just let things be as there is no point in changing your opinion. She gives up easily instead of enthusiastically fighting for her side of the story like she used to. It is her way of telling you that it is silly and the last thing to matter to her now.
7. Ditches Your Bedtime:
It does not happen very commonly but it is a possible sign that she might try to go to bed at a different time than you to avoid either intimacy or any serious talk, or maybe both. If you tell her you to plan to stay up late, she decides to jump in bed at 9 and if you tell her you’re going to go down early today, she delays her own bedtime. It happens rarely but one does rare things to avoid people.
8. Ignores Your Family:
She starts acting like she has met them for the first time like some unearthly power has possessed her due to which she is unable to laugh at your family’s jokes or mingle up with them. More than that, she would try to ignore them just like she would ignore you. People tend to treat the loved one’s family the same way they treat the loved one. Hold it as a sign if she tries to keep a distance from both you and your family.
9. Binge Watches TV Displays Without You:
She commits the horrendous crime of excluding you from Friends marathon. Could there be any stronger sign that this?! (We hope you got the reference). On a serious note, it’s a sign she does not care about doing things with you anymore when she dares to continue the marathon in your absence. It might sound like a silly thing but people who binge-watch TV shows understand how sacred a task it is.
10. She Doesn’t Remember:
She stops being the cool remember-it-all who got all the secret jokes in the blink of an eye. She just doesn’t remember anything now and acts like she doesn’t understand what you are saying either to embarrass you or actually tell you in closed words that all that was stupid just like your face right now’. This I don’t remember anything’ behavior can be brutally heartbreaking.
11. Reduced Self-Grooming:
Body waxing, hairdos and manicures, etc are no longer a monthly thing on her to-do list; she goes light on self-grooming. There can be many reasons why she may stop doing all that but it can be a sign of lesser interest in impressing you as a partner. When she used to be extra conscious about her body but loses all concern for it, it might mean that she plans to break bad news to you.
12. Awkward Sex Life:
First of all, she would try to stay away from you in bed as much as possible but if she fails to do so at some point, she would either fake it or won’t show any enthusiasm at all. Before you, it will end and you will be lying there wondering what the hell just happened and when you turn to face her, she will be deep asleep. Awkward sex life, too, can mean a lot of things but her not being into you anymore is one of those things too. So look out for her interest in jumping in bed with you, it can tell you a lot.
13. When Slicee Lingerie is History:
Remember that cute black bra with red laces over it? Probably no, because she doesn’t wear it anymore. All she wears now is the beige pair that you were never a fan of. Does she do it on purpose? Am I unworthy of the black bra now? You will ask questions to yourself and it’s justified. But asking her would help so if you think something is not right with how she is acting lately, talk to her about it.
14. Increased Self-Grooming:
As much as reduced interest in self-grooming sounds fishy, increased self-grooming can tell you a lot about her priorities too. She is paying a little too much attention on her clothes but keeps you away? Can be someone else she’s trying to impress. The picture of her planning to pull away from you can turn into picture of her getting close to someone else in seconds. Just keep your eyes open.
15. Drinks a lot:
Gone are the times when nights with her at the club meant a little dancing and a little drinking? If yes then they have probably converted into a lot of drinking and a lot of dancing, just not with you. You might see her having her own fun on the dance floor where you are not welcome. Some guy might even buy her a drink in front of you and she would tell you to relax because it is no big a deal. That’s how, slowly, things slip out of hands.
16. With You, It’s Coffee:
The only time she sits with you is for those boring, event fewer coffee dates were nothing more than small talk happens. You see the fun part asphyxiating to death slowly right in front of you on a coffee date. Coffee dates are for newbie couples who are trying to get to know each other, not for people who have slept together a hundred nights. If all she wants to do with you now is go for coffee then brace yourself, something is coming.
17. Not Jealous Anymore:
Excess jealousy can be annoying, yes, but a little of it is cute and keeps you both on your toes. If you see her seeing you check out a hot waitress or cashier but says or does nothing then it is signed for you to worry. The girl who lost her shit when you so much as waved to an old friend now acting blind to you checking out other women can be a worrying matter. (We are not suggesting you check out other women to check if she notices).
18. Involves People:
Whenever it is about having a quiet evening with her or spending alone time with just her, she tries to involve people in the plan. It can be her sister or her co-worker or your co-worker. For her, it becomes all about trying to avoid spending time with you because it doesn’t thrill her anymore.
19. Casual Changes:
When her whole life takes a new turn without you ever being notified, it can mean two things. Either she does not think you are essential enough to be told every little thing or she has moved on from her old self and is stuck with you like something old. It can be anytime soon that she decides to get rid of you as she got rid of her favorite country music tape. Do not freak out on these casual changes though before you confirm all the other signs.
20. All You Get is a Maybe:
She is the kind of person who keeps track of social and professional events on her brain calendar and is able to make space for essential events on her free days but when it comes to you asking about a dinner date, all you get is a maybe, we’ll see’. It’s high time you act upon it and ask her if everything is okay between you two before it’s too late.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé