What kind of woman do you want to date? Most likely, the dating game centers on who you want to be in a relationship with.
Most often than not, people forget to assess themselves to see if they fit the woman they are eyeing.
No matter how many dates you seal, if you’re a mismatch to the ideal person you have in mind, things just won’t work out.
So you want to date an independent woman? Here are 6 things you should know before dating her:
1. She will not make you her world
An independent woman is someone who will not make you their world. You might have a hard time setting a date with them because their schedules are full. They work, they see their friends after work, and they give time for their hobbies. Also, you can’t expect them to put you first. They are living their lives in a full circle, and you are just an addition. If you’re okay with that, go ahead with that date.
2. She’s a busy and productive woman
Since they are busy living their lives, you also cannot expect them to reply to you in a matter of seconds. Since their lives are full, they don’t have much time to reply to you as fast as you want them to. Given that time constraint, it’ll be a little tricky to know if they are not replying because they are busy or they just don’t like you. It is best to know their pace for you not to arrive at misinterpretations.
3. She has her own standards
Aside from competing for their time, another thing you need to be prepared for when you are dating an independent woman is their standards. They have complete lives, so they are expecting yours is complete, also. The “you complete my world cliché” just won’t do the magic. They believe that a relationship is composed of two complete individuals who are ready to share their lives with others. They’re more likely to turn down people who need them to be complete. So, as sweet as that line may seem, it is best if you just complete your life first.
4. She can take care of herself
Fixing your life should go hand in hand with fixing your idea of a woman. Why date an independent woman if she is not what you are looking for? If the kind of woman that you like is someone who’s clingy and who will make you her world, the independent kind might not be the one for you. If you want to play the role of a knight in shining armor, also late, an independent woman has already saved herself. If you want to be the sole provider, that’ll be insulting as an independent woman can pay for her own bills. So, before dating an independent woman, make sure she is the one you are looking for.
5. She is financially independent
Speaking of bills, when you date an independent woman, prepare to split the bill. Most likely, they’ll offer to pay for the meal they ordered and they will. You can offer to shoulder all the expenses if you find it chivalric, but don’t impose your idea. She might get the wrong message that you’re telling her that she cannot pay for what she ordered.
6. She expects you to be a decision-maker
Another thing that you need to prepare for is your itinerary. Leaving the decision making up to her can send her the wrong impression of you that you are someone who is incapable of making life-changing decisions. If you can’t decide on simple matters like what to eat or where to go after a cup of coffee, how can you decide for more serious things? So, when asked, “Where do you want to go next after having a coffee?”, instead of saying “your call”, why not say something like “I heard there’s a photo exhibit in the activity center. Why don’t we drop by?” By being suggestive, you can avoid sounding demanding. Just remember not to leave everything up to her. She makes decisions, so she won’t be interested in someone who can’t.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé