What to expect from your first kiss
Kissing a guy for the first time can always prove to be a tricky affair. You will have a lot of questions going through your mind: What if I do it the wrong way? Will he like the kiss or not? Will he still like me if I make a mistake? Luckily, there are many things you can do to prepare yourself for a first kiss.
A first kiss should happen naturally
Instead of panicking, just relax and do what feels right. Things will flow naturally but only if you take it easy. Do not be in a rush to show your romantic side. Even though kissing a guy you have never been intimate with may seem complicated at first, as soon your lips meet his, everything will fall into place. Take advantage of the great joy that kissing brings. Note that romantic kissing is the beginning of enjoyable intimate life. So, be good at it and keep him glued. Here are some tips that you can use to ensure that your first kiss will remain memorable.
1) Make your lips soft and sensual when kissing for the first time
Before you take this big move, you have to do some prep work. This is not about learning expert kissing techniques but rather ensuring that your lips are kissable. Chapped lips are a turn-off and you need to know the right products to apply. It is all about looking enticing and sensual. Leaving your new guy smudged with lipstick marks after kissing is not romantic at all.
It’s all about preparation
Kissable lips are essential in having a wonderful first kiss. Make use of lip balms and glosses not only on the day you are expecting the kiss but also as a daily routine. This will make your lips smooth, supple, and succulent. Avoid thick and sticky products. The last thing he probably wants is a mouthful of apple balm or orange gloss. If you didn’t know, overly glossy lips make your mouth look abnormally big. This is a big no-no especially if you are blessed with thick lips. Even if you have thin lips, you would still look so unnatural. Understandably, you want to look like a diva but a wrong shade of red lipstick can transform you into a clown. Here are 6 lipstick errors you must not commit as you head out to kiss your man for the first time.
Six lipstick errors to avoid for your first kiss
1. Do not wear the wrong shade
2. Never decorate your teeth with lipstick
3. Do not make your lips also dark
4. Shun the funky glitters
6. Never apply lipstick outside the lip borders
7. Do not use a dark lip liner with light lipstick
2) Ensure privacy when kissing for the first time
Intimacy should be private. You should, therefore, look for a comfortable spot. Avoid restaurants, playgrounds, or any other crowded place. You may not have planned for it, but if you find yourself in a public place, look for a spot where no one can see you. Under no circumstance should your first kiss happen in front of friends or kids? Kissing in public is not only offensive but also uncomfortable. The onlookers might disrupt the breathtaking moment or even hurl some funny comments that would embarrass both of you.
3) Use a breath mint for your first-time kiss
This is probably the most essential step if you’re kissing someone for the first time. Whether it is your first, second, or thirtieth time, you should always think about your breath. Make sure you have some breath mints at hand. Also, keep at bay any spicy flavors like ginger, garlic, or onions. Nothing will make you more confident than having fresh and sweet breath. It would be such an unpleasant experience if your boyfriend to-be avoids you because of bad breath. If you plan to eat flavorful food before your first kiss, make sure that you buy some minty gums. Make sure to brush your teeth properly also.
4) It’s better to sit down if you’re kissing for the first time
The best position for a romantic kiss, especially if you have intentions of making out, is when you are seated in a relaxed position as opposed to standing. Standing can weaken your knees if the intimacy continues for long or it may be awkward if you have a significant height difference. However, don’t be discouraged to kiss while in a standing position if you find it more romantic.
5) Let your expressions do the talking
When you experience your first kiss with a guy, you don’t have to talk. Start by getting closer to him. This will let him know that you are comfortable with him. It can also be a discreet way of arousing him. However, do not be quick but wait for things to happen naturally. It is of utmost importance that both of you have the same pace. It would be very awkward if you try to kiss him when he isn’t interested.
Focus on body language
It will show him your intentions. If you are a bold lady, you can ask him directly if he wants to kiss you but this may fail or even cause embarrassment. As you speak to him, don’t focus also much on his eyes. Concentrate more on the movements of his lips. A good way to create a hint is to take intentional glances towards his mouth and then look directly into his eyes. Once he has an idea of what you want, his body language and expressions will let you know if he wants to kiss you also.
6) Breathe on his neck before your first kiss
Before he makes the first move, breathe on his neck a little, and pull away. This builds anticipation and can be a clear indication that you can control yourself around him. You may put your hands on his face as you breathe down his neck. Notice how his skin smells but don’t be also fast.
7) Let him take the lead when you kiss for the first time
“Ladies first” is a popular expression, but when it comes to intimacy, it is always a good idea to let the guy take the lead. Unless you like to dominate in everything, it is better to follow the guy’s lead during your first kiss. If you feel a little dryness in your lips, lick them so that they become softer and delicate. Close your eyes, wait for him to touch your lips, and press your lips against his. You can then reciprocate by parting your lips to make them accessible.
Be slow but steady
Kissing slowly and softly is the right way to go. When he moves to kiss you, move in, and respond slowly. Purse your lips gently as you massage his lips with yours. The lower lip is always the best to start with and then you can continue to the upper one. After the gentle massage is over, you can shake things up a bit. Start aggressively kissing him. Squeeze his lips between yours but be careful not to crush his mouth. Use reasonable pressure to express passion. You can also use the teeth but don’t bite also hard! Be as gentle as possible. You don’t want to hurt your guy accidentally. Softly nibble his lips and push his lower and bottom lips between your teeth. Slowly run your teeth over his lips to bring a distinctive sensation.
Keep it quite short
This icebreaker should not take also long. It is best to keep it short and simple unless the two of you are extremely aroused. If you think that you are infatuated, do not push it also far. The most romantic first kiss lasts for a few seconds with two mouths grazing softly on each other. After sharing your first kiss with each other, look directly into his eyes and smile. Then a few more kisses may follow. What you must not do is force a particular style because it might become a bad experience for your guy. You should learn from him and teach him slowly to adjust to your unique kissing style.
8) Do more than just kissing
Kisses are meant to be enjoyed. Don’t stop at just kissing. To leave your new man wanting more, you have to make extra romantic movements. Remember that sweet kisses and touches are precursors to wonderful intimacy. A little body contact feels good and intimate, and it will turn him on without sending a message that you are also easy. As you kiss and move closer to him, he will definitely do the same.
Allow somebody contact
Let your chests brush against each other every moment you move to kiss. He will forever remember this first experience. Use your hands to caress his back and chest. This will get you closer to him and he will want to do the same for you. You need to enjoy the sensual touches while your bodies touch for the first time. However, if he goes beyond your expectations, you can clasp his arms and move them to other areas where you are more comfortable with his touches. A good guy will understand this and he will know that you must approve his every move.
9) Keep your head flexible during the first kiss
Some ladies don’t know that they can be kissed on other parts apart from their lips. It is fine to tilt your head to different sides to get more comfortable. You will start enjoying more than you ever imagined by doing so. Remember that he also has another side of the face and once in a while, you should switch the position of your head. Your face needs to be as flexible as you kiss. You should turn sideways when necessary and move up your chin so that he can kiss your neck, forehead, or cheeks. A plain kiss without another move can be boring. No one wants to remember a stiff and uncomfortable first kiss.
10) Pay attention to his movements
Naturally, people like to do things that they most enjoy. As such, you should be keen on what your partner is doing as he kisses you. Take note of his style and techniques. How hard does he press his lips against yours? Find out if he closes his mouth or goes for a French kiss. Does he like to nibble? If you get to understand what he gives, then you will be in a position to return the gesture. He most likely wants you to kiss him the same way he does with you. This intimate communication is vital in finding the deepest pleasures awaiting in your relationship.
11) Kiss his other erogenous zones
When most women hear about kissing a man, they think only about the lips. Instead of focusing on the mouth, try exploring other parts of his body. The cheek, for instance, is a pleasurable spot. He will appreciate this. Don’t just stop there. Go on to his neck and ears and start licking and nibbling them.
12) Find the right balance between a slow kiss and an aggressive kiss
It is normal to feel awkward every time you try or do something new. This should not be a cause of panic. After a while, the new thing becomes familiar. Kissing your guy for the first time should neither be also slow nor also aggressive. You don’t need heavy tongue probing to start. Nevertheless, a sloppy kiss is boring. You want his body to shiver from your moist lips, forceful tongue, and groping hands.
Make an impression
If the moment feels right, do not hesitate to showcase your kissing prowess as you enjoy the romantic bliss. Kissing is very exciting but if you don’t show your guy that you are interested in a great kiss, he might not come back for another round. To create an impression, you must balance between subtle and aggressive. Find a sweet spot between an innocent kiss and a sensual kiss. This can be achieved with lots of practice.
13) Cap off your first kiss with a final move
Kissing him one last time shows him that you had a great moment. It is also a good way of showing that you will miss him. This intimate and memorable moment that you shared should be wrapped up with a soft hug. A smile also is a great way to end it.
Other things to know about having your first kiss
Kissing for the very first time is always awkward
It is advisable to inject a sense of humor to make it more comfortable. Like any other activity, it can never be perfect for the very first time. You don’t have to be embarrassed if you are kissing a man who has had a lot of experiences with women. Even if you have never kissed anyone before, there is nothing to be ashamed of. It doesn’t mean you are old-fashioned. Every woman starts somewhere. Some ladies of your age have never kissed a man and it is not because they are not physically attractive. There are many other reasons for not having your first kiss at a younger age, so don’t look at it as a now-or-never experience.
It may turn out to be the most special moment in your life
Or, it might also feel like nothing. Kissing someone for the first time doesn’t have to be the best moment in life. Only kiss him because you feel like doing it. If you don’t want to do it, don’t force yourself. Do it because you feel connected to him. Similarly, don’t force him to do it if he doesn’t want to.
You can say no
If you get into a situation you feel is wrong, be bold enough to say no. Your guy must understand that consent is essential. If he doesn’t, then he is not good for you. No one should pressure you into kissing someone for the first time. If you feel that you are being pressured, then firmly express that you do not want to kiss him at that moment.
It is normal to get nervous but do not forget to breathe
It is normal to get nervous but do not forget to breathe. Try to relax and enjoy the sensational moment. The first time is not a determinant of how subsequent kisses will be. If it turns out badly, do not beat yourself up. With time and experience, you will improve. If your guy rejects your kiss, it is okay. Just move on and eventually, you will find another man who wants to get intimate with you.
Simply enjoy this romantic moment
A first kiss helps two people understand each other way of showing intimacy and romance. It is the first step in building an intimate connection between two lovers. A kiss that doesn’t feel right leaves two people in doubt because they might question if there is chemistry between them. Rather than being anxious about how you will kiss him, take it easy and learn from this experience.
It’s alright if it’s not perfect
The first moment of intimacy with a new guy is always tricky regardless of whether you have been with another man before or not. Know that the two of you will have different perceptions of what a perfect kiss is. But still, try not to worry also much about making everything perfect. Make sure that you leave a lasting impression after your mouths part. Follow the tips you’ve just learned and enjoy your first kiss!