New relationships can be exciting and overwhelming at the same time. After moving past the fun part of getting to know each other, reality sets in and the cracks starts showing.
It’s normal to go through ups and downs in relationships especially the initial stages since this is when you’re learning about your partner.
However, there are sure mistakes that we make that could be a deal-breaker in new relationships. Here are some things to avoid when building a relationship:
1. Coming On Too Strong
Coming on also strong can be intimidating in new relationships. You end up looking like a crazy stalker instead of a romantic suitor. Take it slow and give your partner a chance to miss you. Additionally, keep the gifts simple. Grand gestures of love like expensive jewelry and big bouquets of flowers send the wrong message which might spook your partner.
2. Posting Too Much Online
Showing off your partner online is unavoidable in this digital age. We live and breathe online therefore, it’s only natural to post about your relationship on social media. However, experts caution about sharing also much especially for new relationships as it reduces the magic of the relationship. This could also be a recipe for disaster since your relationship will be subjected to criticism.
3. Avoiding Confrontation
Though you shouldn’t pick petty fights, you shouldn’t tolerate bad behavior either. Being nonchalant in new relationships simply to avoid confrontation will only escalate the situation. If sure behaviours don’t sit well with you, speak up, and set some boundaries. However, try not to come off as demanding or controlling as this is a huge turn-off.
4. Being Jealous Or Suspicious
Jealousy is not only an ugly habit but also exposes your own insecurities which can put your partner off. Avoid talking badly about your partner’s friends, especially of the opposite sex. Additionally, constant suspicion indicates trust issues which can weaken the bonds of a new relationship. it’s better to talk through your fears rather than going through your partner’s phone.
5. Being A Hopeless Romantic
There’s a fine line between affectionate and cling in new relationships. The excitement can lead us to cross the line which can feel overwhelming to the other person. Doing things that are mostly reserved for established relationships such as constant affirmation and excessive physical contact is a big no-no since you haven’t developed a strong emotional bond which makes these gestures seem meaningless.
6. Sacrificing Other Relationships
We all know someone who ghosts everybody when they’re in a new relationship. While you may want to enjoy some quality time with your partner, this could set up the relationship for criticism from the alienated friends who end up resenting the other person. You could also develop an unhealthy dependency on your partner by spending also much time together.
7. Expecting Perfection
This is one of the most common mistakes people make in new relationships. Setting unrealistic standards on your partner will only lead to disappointments hence jeopardizing your relationship. Remember that human is to error and that your partner will disappoint you sooner or later. Instead of rushing to break up, let them know that you aren’t happy with the mistake.
8. Keeping Secrets
New relationships are quite delicate since you can over-share or keep secrets which can threaten the relationship. However, it’s necessary to share the essential parts of your life to let your partner know more about you. If you have a dark secret, this is the best time to reveal it as your partner is more likely to be understanding. The key is knowing when to share sure things. Some secrets should not be shared with just any partner. It has to a partner who you are getting serious with.
9. Getting Physical Too Fast
When it comes to sex and relationships, things can get complicated fast. It’s okay to have sex on the first date but it’s also essential to remember that sex can cloud your judgment. If you want a serious relationship, it’s better to wait a while until you’re absolutely sure you want to be intimate with that person.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé