Being in a relationship is not a necessity, it’s a choice. And a choice you should make wisely. Don’t rush into it. There’s absolutely nothing wrong in being single. In fact, the single life has its benefits. As long as you’re happy with yourself, and don’t need a relationship to feel complete or happy, you’re on the right track. And being content your single status can actually lead to a good relationship when you eventually decide to get into one. Because you know that you don’t need that person in any way, but you want to be with them all the same. You’re not going to depend on them, or have any sort of expectations; you’d be able to take things as they come.
Here are 8 things that you could do while you’re single to ensure a better future relationship;
Try things by yourself
The one thing that a relationship guarantees is evidently companionship. There’s someone you can always count on to do something together. Be it something you’ve done a million times before or something you never thought you’d ever do.
When you’re single, make a bucket list. There has to be things you’ve always wanted to do or try, but never got around to it. Take this chance, and start checking off things from that list. It might feel weird trying out a new cuisine or taking a road trip on your own; but you’ll get over it. You’ll see that you don’t need anyone to do the things you want to do.
Reflect on the baggage you carry around
We’ve all been hurt, and we’ve all suffered loss, but we all survived all the same. Bad experiences are the best teachers. Emotional scars may always hurt, but its how you deal with them, and what you’ve learned from them. The experiences you gain change you in some way or the other. You of all people should be aware of how you’ve been affected and how it has changed you. And going into a relationship, present yourself the way you’re, you shouldn’t pretend that you’ve never had any bad experiences. It’s only fair for your partner to know the kind of person they’re dealing with and the baggage they’re carrying. – Continue reading on the next page
Try reducing the baggage
Something is always going on with everyone. We’re all dealing with one situation or another. And all of that impacts us, whether we choose to acknowledge it or not. But it’s a good thing to know what makes you act the way you do. And if there’s a way to rid yourself of the things that keep nagging at you, look for it. Free yourself of all the negativity you’ve accumulated over the years and find peace. When you’re at peace with yourself, you can be focused on the next person that enters your life.
Set your priorities
While in a relationship you have to make a lot of adjustments and some of those adjustments mean giving up on things you like. It’s not so bad as long as it’s limited to a few things. But if it goes on to include stuff that you religiously stick by, then you’ve got yourself a problem. Reinforce your priorities. Don’t ever let go of things that you want for anyone or anything. If your job requires you to travel, you can’t give it up just because it doesn’t make your dating situation any easier. The person you’re with should accept and appreciate you for who you’re and who you want to be, and all that is part of the package.
Know what you want from a relationship
Most of the time, relationships don’t work out because you realize they’re not serving you right. But this realization strikes you during the relationship, which ultimately leads to heartbreak. To avoid something of the sort, think about what you want from a partner and a relationship, when you’re still single. This way you’d end up with what you’ve always wanted.В – Continue reading on the next page
Learn from other’s experiences
You may be single, but the people around you, friends and family may be in healthy, long-term relationships. Find out how they’ve made it so far and what their secrets to a healthy relationship are. You can learn best from your own mistakes, but observation helps also. You can notice the things that can make relationships last and how healthy couples work.
Be aware of your mistakes
Your past relationship ended for a reason, and you must be equally responsible for it. You can’t place all the blame on the other person. Even if they were on the wrong, you must’ve made some wrong choices also. Only when you realize your mistakes and own up to them you will be able to keep yourself from repeating them in the future and ruining a potential relationship.
Appreciate the good in you
Making mistakes or wrong decisions does not make you a horrible person, it just makes you human. You can’t go back in time and change anything. Let the past be. If you regret having done or said something, apologize and make it a point to never do it again. You have your vices, but you have your virtues as well. Don’t beat yourself up over something that’s now history. You’re not all that bad. If you don’t realize your strengths, no one else will!
Talk to me
What do you like better? Being single or in a relationship? What is the longest time you’ve been single? Did that time help you make the next relationship better? How did you do things differently the next time round? Let me know in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé