Looking for secrets behind the longest and happiest of relationships? What do these couples do to maintain a healthy relationship? How is it that even after years into the relationship, the spark is still there? What is it that increases the love that they share, day after day? How can they be so happy all the time? Look no further. Here are 12 of their surprisingly simple daily habits;
Adopt a ritual
That evidently engages both of you. There are tons of things you could do. Even if you don’t have any such ritual, you could start now. Make some time to maybe listen to some music together, watch something, exchange random messages, take a walk or whatever you see fit.
Making it a habit would ensure at least a little time together every day, even on the busiest days. Amidst all the changes that are constantly taking place, you need something familiar to hold on to, this could be it. A constant reminder of the blessing of a relationship you have.
Shower each other with compliments
Tell them how a sure color compliments them better than another or how they have the kind of smile that makes you want to smile. Observe the changes in wardrobe or hair or anything and make sure you praise them. It’s nice to know that your significant other notices the little things about and just how attractive they find you.
Hold each other
Not just a quick hug while rushing out the door, or a tired one before dozing off. Make it a part of your daily routine to just hold each other for a while. Start and end your days with this. Concentrate on each other’s mere presence, the warmth that the two of you exude and the comfort of their embrace.
The goodbye kisses
Give them something to take with them whenever they’re leaving the house. It’s a sort of a reminder of what they get to go home to and how they have someone waiting for them. It’s sweet and adds a special something to your day, leaving you in a good mood.
Put alsothpaste on their alsothbrush
If you’re the first one to brush your teeth in the morning or before bed, put paste on their brush as well when you’re done. It might not seem like a very big deal, but it just shows how you’re constantly thinking about them, even in the tiniest of things. Purpose served!
A little conversation every night
When you’re finally done with your day, what could be better than some pillow talk before getting some sleep? It’s one of the most relaxing things to do. It eases your mind and heart as well. Not only do you sleep better, but you’re all caught up on what’s going on in your lives as well. It may not be a very long conversation, considering how you both would be drained; but, quality over quantity.
Express gratitude for every little thing
As a couple, your roles may be well defined and you both expect each other to do live up to them. Things go wrong when we fail to acknowledge that some things are not a given, and that if your partner is doing something for you, it’s their duty. They might be doing it simply out of concern for you. Appreciate the little things. Even if it’s something like waking you up every morning for work.
Pamper each other
Don’t base your relationship on tit-for-tat. You want a mature, healthy relationship, start acting like it. It does take two to make it work, but be more concerned with the part you have to play in the relationship. Think of the things you can do for them, regardless of whether they return the favor or not. Spoil them rotten! You two should try to outdo each other in this particular department.
Smile at the very sight of them
This shouldn’t be also hard. In fact it should come as a reflex. Seeing them should make you glad, even on the worst days. The first thing you do when you see them enter the house or the room is to smile. (You can always vent later).
Take a walk
You’re literally walking away from all the distractions that keep you occupied all day long. Depending on where you choose to go for your walk, you might not be the only people there, but it’d much easier to focus on each other. The best time would be at night, when you can go over your day with them and just let it all out, and talk about just anything or nothing at all. At times you’d simply want to appreciate each other’s company in silence.
Start the day together
Prepare breakfast together, or just have it together, exercise, meditate or just laze around in bed for a bit. Whatever it is, make sure you start your day together. This sets the right mood for the rest of the day.
Exchange silly, random texts
Be it a pun, or a simple I-love-you text, or telling about something that reminded you of them, or any other thing. It serves as a constant reminder. And as long as it puts a smile on their face, it’s totally worth it.
Small things do go a long way. So keep doing things they’d like, without keeping any sort of score. It doesn’t have to be anything over the top; just a little gesture would do the job.
Let me know if I’m missing something here. And also about your rituals as a couple.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé