What is Solo Sex?
Solo sex or masturbation is the obtaining of sexual pleasure through self-stimulation of the genital organs. It is the safest resource – without risk of pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases – and suitable to achieve it when you do not have the possibility of having sexual relations with a partner, but it is also an excellent way to discover and learn to know your own sexuality.
Far from being considered an adolescent practice, masturbation should be part of sexual life at any age.
Why Solo Sex is So Much Better
Masturbating is totally healthy and totally normal. There are tons of myths designed to scare you into believing that masturbation is wrong or bad for you. The truth is that masturbation is perfectly safe. Masturbating will not make you blind, crazy, or stupid. It won’t harm your genitals, give you pimples, or stop your growth. It doesn’t drain your organs or ruin any other kind of sex.
In fact, masturbation can be good for you. Here we tell you some benefits of it:
Masturbation is safer than any other type of sex. You cannot get pregnant or contract any sexually transmitted diseases by masturbating.
Masturbation can help you learn what you like and don’t like to do sexually. And if you decide to have sex with someone, you can know what you want to do and what not. A BONUS: Feeling comfortable talking about sex and your body with your partner also makes it easier to talk about how to protect yourself against STDs.
Exploring your body and learning about what gives you sexual pleasure can be empowering and help you improve your body image.
Masturbation can lower stress levels and help you relax. It even helps some people fall asleep.
Having an orgasm releases endorphins – the feel-good chemicals in your brain. Orgasms can be naturally soothing and may help with menstrual cramps.
Mutual masturbation (masturbating with your partner) is a safe way to have sex and to let the other person know what makes you feel good. If you share a sex toy, use a condom for the toy and wash it before exchanging it. And if you do touch your genitals, wash your hands before you do so. Safety first in all situations!
12 Mind Blowing Solo Sex Tips For Each Month
All these benefits undoubtedly come perfectly at a time when we cannot go out on the street or be close to the people we love or our partner in some cases, so we must take advantage of the moment to discover ourselves and improve our sexual health.
If you’ve never masturbated or want to find fun new ways to do it, we give you 12 tips that are sure to make you enjoy incredible solo orgasms in these months of confinement:
1. Play music
Masturbating while listening to music can be a very pleasant experience, as music helps control stress and relax the mind. Putting on some upbeat rhythms can help you feel more energetic, while slower rhythms relax you and release tension from your muscles, helping you focus only on pleasure.
2. Breathing excercices
According to Sari Cooper, a sex therapist and director of the Center for Love and Sex, we can enjoy masturbation more if we first do breathing exercises that help us relax our body.
As you practice mindful breathing, inhaling, and exhaling deeply, it will be easier to eliminate negative thoughts and focus only on your body and the movements that bring you the most pleasure.
Taking a hot bath, preferably in the tub, not only removes stress from your body, but it also creates an erotic environment for satisfying masturbation. We recommend using soaps, oils, and sponges to massage the most sensitive areas of your body before going directly to the genitals.
Moving your body is not only good for physical health, but it also relaxes tense muscles and promotes good blood flow, ensuring more and better orgasms alone or with a partner.
To make the masturbation experience more pleasant, it is ideal not to start by touching the genitals, but to first caress other parts of the body as foreplay, you can start by massaging your scalp, then your neck, your shoulders, your breasts, your belly, your thighs. internal and finally, the intimate area.
You can even start touching yourself with your clothes on and little by little to remove some clothes. If possible, let out your moans of pleasure.
6. Pay attention to your breathing
When you are already stroking your genitals, you should start with slow movements, especially if you are a woman and trying to stimulate your clitoris. But mainly, you must pay attention to your breathing, because some people stop breathing during stimulation, which decreases the intensity of the sensations.
7. Take advantage of your ovulation
Surely you have realized that a few days before your menstruation arrives you feel much more sexual desire than normal because this is due to ovulation and without a doubt, you should take advantage of it to masturbate because it will facilitate excitement and intense orgasms.
8. Use a mirror
If you dare to do more, you can try masturbation in front of a mirror, since the experience will be much more sensual and you will be able to see your reactions during arousal, which can help you gain more confidence when you are in bed with your partner.
9. Don’t abuse on sex toys
Probably when you practice masturbation with toys like the vibrator or the clitoris sucker, the orgasm comes quickly, but it is advisable not to abuse its use since the nerve endings are hyperstimulated and in the long run, sensitivity can be lost.
Ideally, you should change the environment frequently and masturbate with your fingers, with a pillow, or in the shower.
10. Try different positions
For women, this masturbation technique can be very satisfactory, you just have to lie on your stomach and take advantage of the fact that there is more pressure on the clitoris. You can try rubbing and moving your hips to find out which rhythm works best to get you aroused.
11. Use lubricant
Why not? While we understand that the lubricant is an aid for sex as a couple, you will also benefit from greater moisture, slip, and, depending on the type of product, better blood flow in your masturbation. If you are prone to infections, a mild water-based lubricant is the best option for you.
12. Change it out
We are creatures of habit, so if you find a technique that never fails, you will probably reach orgasm whenever you do it. But you should also try giving yourself a break from your favorite toys. The use of the vibrator hyperstimulates the nerve endings of the clitoris, which accelerates the climax. But if you end up getting used to it, it can be difficult for you to reach orgasms in other ways or as a couple. The same goes for men, try different places, positions, and rhythms. Just change it out once in a while.
Will I Get Addicted to Solo Sex
Masturbation is a sexual practice that has many detractors, but like so many other things in life, in its proper measure, it has many benefits for the individual. Masturbation has been found to have healthy effects on the immune system and can even prevent endometriosis in women, relaxes the nervous system by reducing stress and anxiety, and despite popular belief, it can have positive effects on sexuality. a couple. However, it can also cause a lack of control and become an obsessive practice that can cause serious problems in the individual’s daily life, to the point of being the center of much of their lives, and end up becoming an addiction with them. It is pretty much as with everything in the world, the excess is always bad for you, so watch out if masturbating starts becoming addictive to you.
Take advantage of these days of confinement to explore your body through masturbation, try different techniques, and when you are finally with your partner, the experience will be like never before. Lose the fear and taboos around solo sex! Try it out and feel as good as you have felt in a while.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé