In relationships, a subject of considerable controversy and importance is the magical simultaneous orgasm. One where there is a natural sexual reciprocity that greatly pleases the couple. Among other things, it is the reason for great happiness and good moods. How exactly did this event become so sensational and had such a powerful symbolic role in human sexuality?
Pressure on a man to sexually satisfy women is nothing new. In fact, many cultures have believed (including Western culture, at various times) that the female orgasm was as essential to conception as the male climax. Some cultures even suggest that multiple female orgasms are necessary to create a healthy baby. In Jewish tradition, it is considered a “mitzvah”, or a sacred and encouraged the act of kindness, for the husband to give the wife orgasm during sex.
A man rates his sexual self-esteem based on his partner’s response to his technique. When a man and a woman go to bed, the woman cares about her body and appearance, while the man cares about his abilities and ability to sexually satisfy the woman. Men’s pressure on this is actually the main reason women fake orgasms.
And the pressure doesn’t stop there. It is not enough for the man to give the woman an orgasm, but if it is a truly wonderful experience, both will have a magical orgasm together at the same instant! Simultaneous orgasm is an expression of communication, connection, bonding, commitment, respect, and sexual compatibility of a couple!
There is such an incredible individual variation in people’s bodies and sexual responses that simultaneous mutual orgasms probably involve a lot of accidental time and synchronicity, reflecting any physical or spiritual mystical bond. If anything, they can more often be fueled by a man’s sexual arousal and arousal as a woman’s climax approaches.
What is a Simultaneous Orgasm
Orgasm is simultaneous when it occurs at the same time in people who participate in sexual intercourse. It is something difficult to achieve since it requires a lot of concentration on the part of the couple but sometimes it also happens by chance. However, when the sensation happens it is a total, almost mystical connection.
In a sexual relationship of any kind, the most normal thing is that each of the people who participate in it reaches the climax at different times. As much as they want to make us see in the movies that always happens like this, it is far from reality. In it, each one has one’s own rhythm, some take longer, others less … depending on many different factors.
But just because it’s rare doesn’t mean it’s unattainable. Many couples do this with practice and high doses of patience. However, you should not take it as something essential to enjoy sex, but as something fun and interesting to try. As we say, it is rare that it happens so you do not have to take it to the tremendous if after several attempts you do not succeed. The essential thing is to enjoy sex at the same time at different times.
Ways to Maximize Chance of Having Simultaneous Orgasm
As we said before, simultaneous orgasm is a quite magical thing to happen. Therefore, we want to give you a series of tricks so that you can also achieve it. Take note:
1. Be on the same page
Where should you start? Basically you need to make sure that both parties are on the same page, because if your partner wants to have quick sex and you prefer to do it over low heat then it will surely not work.
Then, it is essential that you know what works best in each one and the best way to satisfy the person next to you. And it is often the case that simultaneous orgasm does not occur because many women take longer to become aroused than men. It is known that women need more than penetration to climax.
If your partner usually only tends to orgasm with oral sex or masturbation, many sexual positions will not provide enough clitoral stimulation to recreate that feeling. For this reason, it is necessary that you create contact when choosing a posture. Also, try to move from one side to another before penetration to stimulate the clitoris.
In this sense, try to try those sexual positions that stimulate the clitoris more easily, and use lubricants or massage gels if oral sex is among your favorite activities. And remember that a vibrator can also be a great help if you reach orgasm during sex.
2. Find the correct speed
Since most women usually take longer to reach orgasm than men, preliminaries are often a more than interesting option to match that excitement. Once you are ready for sex, do not be afraid to stop things for a moment if you see that you or your partner are very close to climax. Take a break, enjoy the kisses and caresses before continuing and wait for everything to flow until you reach a more intense orgasm.
On the other hand, try to synchronize your breathing while making love so that the rhythm of your bodies is the most appropriate. And finally, remember that pelvic floor exercises are not exclusive to pregnant women. Men can practice them as a handbrake to delay orgasms.
3. Find an intimate setting
It is very essential that you find a place for privacy that is calm and where you can relax. Remember that it is easier to reach an orgasm when you forget about the pressures of everyday life.
You can put scented candles in the room, incense, romantic music, and even aphrodisiac dishes or desserts, anything that disconnects them from the routine will be perfect. Another secret that will help you is the lighting, try to make it dim to create a much more romantic and intimate atmosphere
The more sex you have with your partner, the better you can get to know them and the chances of sharing an orgasm will be much higher. The best way to climax together is to practice frequently and experience new things whenever you can.
Don’t be afraid to experience something new, remember that to keep the flame of passion alive, you and your partner must find new ways to share moments of passion and intimacy.
5. Don’t obsess
Although having a simultaneous orgasm can be one of the maximum pleasures as a couple, it should not be the end either. What matters is that both enjoy intimacy to the point where they come to coincide at the moment of pleasure. Don’t put oo much pressure on yourself or obsess over getting to the simultaneous orgasm. It is not everything!
Communicate and Try Again When Unsuccessful
As we said before, giving up and not trying again is your worse enemy. But isn’t this always an enemy? As with everything, trying again is key when it comes to orgasm simultaneously.
Couples who have been together for a long time are usually the ones who best experience simultaneous orgasms thanks to the communication between both parties. Until you reach that level, try using a number system from one to ten to explain to your partner how close you are to orgasm. But do not worry, as with time and practice you will understand your partner so much that you will not need to resort to any number. A sexual position in which you can look at each other’s face can be a great option to improve that communication.
There are many couples, today, who have undersalsod that there are many lies behind sexuality and that, most essentially, it is to enjoy together (not at the same time).
That is also sharing sex, pleasure, love … You can expand your sex map and make it bigger. Not only to think that good sex is to have penetration and orgasm at the same time. Always remember this, but also, try our tips and see if you van reach the simultaneous orgams.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé