Not all relationships survive the test of time and there will always be moments when you would feel the need to finally give up and let go.
However, it’s not also that easy to just drop everything and leave because you’re talking about something that once made you the happiest person in the world – so you are stuck in the frustrating and often heartbreaking dilemma between staying and saying good bye.
If you’re ever trapped in this scenario, perhaps two of the questions you have tried but never dared to ask are, is there still hope to bring back what was lost?
Does your relationship still deserve a second chance? If both of your answers is a positive and faithful ‘Yes’, then let us help you figure out the first step of the many steps that you should be taking.
1. Take a break but don’t say goodbye
Don’t give up on your relationship yet because as long as you both believe in your love for each other, there will always be a rainbow after every storm. Maybe you just need a break from everything? Take all the time that you need – both of you.
Trying to fix an almost broken relationship can be emotionally taxing and sometimes it can even affect you physically so take it easy.
2. Talk about it and be honest to each other
What went wrong? Whatever happened to your promises of love and expressions of affection? Talk to each other. Communicate and be honest and truthful about how you feel. Tell them about the time when they hurt you but you’re also scared to show it.
Just go on and ask the questions that have been bothering you all this time. Admit your mistakes and have faith in the fact that it’s not yet also late to fix it.
3. Remember why you love them
You were once the happiest person in the world because you’ve finally met your soulmate – the love of your life. Remember those essential moments of elation. Even if your heart is filled with hurt and has suffered so much pain, they’re still there, just waiting to be found.
4. Don’t let anger do the talking
Your relationship is fragile and even the tiniest hint of negativity can have the ability to break the already weak and delicate string that’s keeping your relationship together. Anger, for instance, is one of the factors that can instantly and surely kill the chances of solving the problem. Try your best not to accommodate and entertain this negativity.
5. Stop hurting each other more
Don’t add more to the list of reasons why you should give up and end it all. Remember that you’re in this delicate stage and one wrong move can ruin all your effort of trying to save your failing relationship. Be sensitive and careful not to hurt each other more.
6. Consider spending time apart
When it’s that bad, you can try to consider this option of being physically away from each other. Sometimes distance can remind you of the things that you have taken for granted. Distance will also make you realize what it would feel like to live a life without them.
7. Seek advice from others who made it
Listen to the stories of others who made it work. Of course their situation can be different from yours but you can always gain something from the experiences of others.
8. Don’t let other people make the decisions
In connection to the previous section, you have to remember that it is you and only you who should make the final decision. You should remember that your own feelings and your own thoughts should be the basis to every choice that you make.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé