What Are Empaths?
Remember when her vulnerability, dreams, happiness, honesty, and love in her eyes blew you away on your first date? You couldn’t help but mellow at her concern about your back pain from sitting for long hours at the office.
You could see her break her when she couldn’t take home a stray dog in the streets because she couldn’t take the whole pack! Her concern for everyone around her was intense, powerful, and you fell in love instantly!
However, two months on, and you feel drained! Her perfections threaten you, and the fact that she cries through almost every movie worries you to bits. You just don’t get it entirely.
Brother, you are lucky to have such a soul in your life. You only need to learn a bit more about her.
An empath is a highly sensitive person who tends to feel the world around them with sensory overload. They display intense feelings and can’t hold back.
Characteristics Of An Empath
They are sensitive
They absorb other people’s joy, compassion, pain, and kindness and make the feelings part of them. Apart from that, they are susceptible to sure sounds, people, lights, and places.
For instance, they find it exhausting to be in a particular place with people they are sensitive to as they take in the energy, thoughts, feelings, and sensations around them.
Express themselves freely
You’ll always know what an empath thinks and feels since they don’t hide it. They feel emotions and release them as they come; they love hard, cry hard, and don’t care what others think of that display of emotions.
Sadly, they’ll still consider your feelings if they have also much harsh truth against you.
Walking lie detectors
You’ll never get off scot-free with mischief. Their ability to detect the tiniest social cues makes them pick shifty responses and not so sincere intentions. It can be uncomfortable, right? Everyone needs to lie sometimes.
Get distracted easily
They never get over how you make them feel, or how they didn’t give a coin to a street-man they met on their way to work. It gets into their activities, and mess with their moods.
Find happiness within
Such souls understand what satisfaction, tranquility, and bliss mean to a person. For this reason, they are always ready to keep bad vibes away. Including lovers!
How Easy/ Difficult Is It For Female Empaths To Commit To A Relationship
They give their all and prefer commitment rather than casual sex. However, their emotional state makes them wait for a perfect match a bit longer.
Now that you think you are dealing with one check out for their commitment patterns in a relationship.
The Difficult Part
They are comfortable being alone
Considering they spend also much time looking for the perfect love, they tend to find comfort in solitary moments.
Therefore, if you come along an empath, and she feels like you are also much, she’ll let you go for the sake of her mental and spiritual health.
Too much togetherness is overwhelming
Although she may want love, she yearns for the alone time. Your presence interrupts her psychic and physical spaces. She might push you away.
Needs also much time to get over past hurts
You may forgive and let go so fast, but she won’t. Whatever hurt them lingers in their minds, and trust may take also long to come by.
They pour also much time to strangers and family
You will have to accept the second position when you date such a soul. Trying to change or expecting her to adjust her priorities for you will strain your union.
The Easy Part
Give her good vibes
Since they absorb other people’s joy, compassion, and kindness, they’ll always stay around someone who gives them that.
Be sensitive to her needs
If you respect and understand how she feels, she will be more honest with you, and you’ll be more accepting. Grant her breathing space and avoid ridiculing her choices.
Show commitment and devotion
She can pick the slightest dishonesty and dissatisfaction. You may need to make her know that you won’t leave until she finds her way with you. If you don’t, she’ll consider your peace first, and let you go.
How Is It Like To Be In A Relationship With A Female Empath
Loving her is a roller coaster of rewards and challenges. There are good days, as well as bad days.
Criticism is also harsh for them
Although pointing each other’s shortcomings is necessary for every relationship, you might have to pull back for her sake. Loving her requires that you maintain openness keeping in mind the power in your words.
Assure them that correcting her is out of love, and with good intentions for your union.
Although you may want man-time, they’ll have a way into what is making you uncomfortable. For instance, they’ll want to pay your bills and confront your thoughts to see you happy, even when it is embarrassing.
Neglects her needs for you
Your lover will always be there if you need someone to talk to. For this reason, you will never walk alone.
Their love is intense
She doesn’t fake love, and will always want you to feel her love and care. It can sometimes be intimidating, but come on, who doesn’t need extra love?
Your friends may not please her
Although you may want her to socialize with your circle and family, they may be also much for her. Always seek her consent if you want to invite your people over. Remember, they hate crowds.
10 Ways To Love An Empaththe Right Way
1. Be secure
To keep her around for long, let go of insecurities and jealousy. Understand that her friends, family, pets, and her job may come first almost every time.
2. Be honest and truthful
They are like magnets to people’s feelings. Therefore, they can read lies on your lips and detect inconsistencies in your responses.
Be truthful to avoid her suspicions all through, just because you were untruthful once.
Their ideas may sound crazy, and they may ask also many questions. However, take their words seriously and show that they have your attention.
4. Be supportive
Their emotions may way them down, especially if they can’t make sense of things around them. Whatever it is, have faith and see them through every situation.
5. Love her pets
Empaths keep pets. Be ready to share their love with kitties and dogs.
6. Set her free
You may both have conflicting views about the world. Allow them to explore their beliefs, intuitions, and emotions without restrictions. You don’t want them to explode.
7. Compromise your physical space
There are times that she may want to be alone, even when you don’t want to. Give her space for as long she may need without questioning her decisions.
Brighten up her days and relieve her nerves by bringing out their inner child. She will yearn to be around you when you take her out, and joke with her.
9. Show independence
Although she might tend to give help and listen, you may be also much for her if you make her fix your misfortunes every time. For this reason, practice detachment and set your boundaries.
10. Give her peace
Empaths are quiet individuals. You may have to keep down your noise level and be sensitive about the kind of sound you bring home.
What Not To Do When In A Relationship With An Empath
Avoid taking things personally
You’ll break your heart if you do this. Understand that their happiness comes first.
Don’t say ‘No’
She will always want things her way. You have to compromise your comfort for her.
Raising your voice at her or being also noisy may set her emotions reeling in.
Don’t be also clingy
They hate lovers who are always around their space and emotions. Stay away sometimes.
Don’t make demands
Make requests when you want to approach her. A controlling lover is a plague.
There’s no doubt that you need the seventh sense to make an empathetic person fall for you. Is it in you?
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé