Let’s face it! Parties are probably the best places when it comes to new relationships that you might not want to pursue otherwise. It’s the music blasting, the chill mood, the drinks, the people or all of the above combined. The reason doesn’t even matter, but one thing is certain: hoking up at parties is a lot easier than doing it in any other context. Or so it should be. However, more and more young people are having problems figuring out how to talk and hook up with their crush.
That basic strategy of holding on to a drink in a dark corner and hoping that someone will notice and invite you to dance is usually a failure. But then again, being too expansive and probably embarrassing yourself is no good either. There’s all about finding an alluring balance between the two and you will attract the one you want. In this article, we will be offering you some beginner tips on how to hook up with a guy at a party and don’t regret it afteward. Here we go!
1. Make them see something nice
What’s the very first thing that goes through your mind when going to a party? If your answer is the outfit, you are absolutely right! The secret lies in figuring out what you feel most comfortable and beautiful in and to follow your instinct. Put on those clothes and wear them with an attitude. Don’t let them wear you, don’t be a vessel. Sure, you might want to show some skin but if you do not feel comfortable doing that, it will show and your evening will be ruined. Trust us, sometimes, is not all about the cleavage and legs. People can feel you from the outside. So, chose your outfit wisely and you will also get a boost of confidence with it. Marvelous!
2. A crowd does you no good
Big groups of friends are cool and all that, but if you want to get your hands on a guy, try to split up. Smaller groups are easier to approach and you might just get your chances up. However, the best idea would be to stay alone for a while and see what happens. This is the best moment for a guy to come over and talk to you. So, if you think that your huge band of friends will make you look cool, you’re right. But it won’t make you look approachable at all. Keep this in mind the next time you go out partying.
3. You can also take the first step
It’s 2019 and definitely cool to take the first step if you really like a guy at a party. He won’t think anything bad about it, on the contrary, he might just love your courage. If you already noticed him and he seems to have noticed you, look him in the eyes and make the first move. Head over and start a casual conversation. It won’t hurt anybody and who knows? He might just turn out to be perfect for you. It’s all about being brave because the worse that can happen is a polite refusal. Nobody ever died from that, trust us!
4. Be interested and proactive
Letting the guy do all the talking while you sit around and listen might make him feel suddenly disinterested. Yes, you might just be nervous or clueless about a conversation topic, but make an effort. Always be interested and proactive when talking to a guy you like at a party because he will also notice that and will love it. Look at the way he’s dressed. Is he sporty? Is he classy? Does he have a band t-shirt? Cool! Then talk about those things and you will see how nice everything will unfold.
5. Be your own weird self!
This should be the number one rule when getting to know anyone, not just a guy at a party. Being yourself, even if you might think you’re weird, will always be better than faking a personality that you will eventually get lost in later. Also, be very careful because the guy you are talking to might become interested in that façade that you put up instead of the real you. What will you do when he finally gets it? It will all be in vain. So, don’t be like that and try as hard as you can to be exactly who you are. He will love you for it.
6. Games, games, games
You know how at parties people usually start playing various games, including drinking ones. Well, get involved because it’s the best chance to spend some time with the one you got your eyes on. The best thing here is that you can be relaxed and carefree when playing those games. Also, let’s be real, a little bit of alcohol will definitely give you the courage you need to continue the conversation even after the game is done. Don’t exaggerate, however! Nobody likes a drunk girl who talks rubbish and makes a fool out of herself. Be careful and keep it light!
7. A little bit of jealousy might work too
Yes, it may sound strange, but if you like a guy and he has noticed you and still isn’t making any move (and you don’t want to either), you might want to make him a little bit jealous. Go talk to your guy friends or maybe spark conversations with those who approach you. Look interested and also watch him so that he knows you still want him. The male ego will start functioning and he will feel like he is losing ground. That’s the perfect moment to approach you and he will most certainly do it at one point throughout the night. Voila! Now he’s all yours!
8. Use friends to draw his attention
Again, probably not the most popular option, but if all else fails, you must get this guy to notice you somehow. If your friends know him, ask them to drop subtle hints that you got your eyes on him. Once he knows who they are talking about, he will definitely start checking you out and probably will start a conversation too. You don’t have to wait around for him to make a move because sometimes, guys do not even notice a girl until they are told that they should do so. See? Not that hard after all.
9. Rejection is not the end of the world
See, what most people don’t understand s that being rejected doesn’t mean your world has ended. Yes, it doesn’t feel great, but you will get over it. Not everyone can like us and sometimes, it’s not even personal. Maybe that guy has some trouble of his own, maybe he has a girlfriend, maybe he doesn’t feel well or like getting to know someone new. It’s their right to feel however they want and you shouldn’t take too seriously. There will be many other occasions to get to know people and maybe people who will want to get to know you. Good luck!
All in all, it appears that hooking up with a guy during a party is definitely something that a lot of girls do nowadays. So, you shouldn’t be embarrassed or afraid to make the first move if the guy doesn’t do it. Also, you should do everything you can to draw his attention if you like him and provoke him to make a move. We hope that these tricks have offered you an idea about what you should do to impress a guy at a party. Remember that not all people will like us and it’s perfectly fine! So, what are you waiting for? Put on that amazing outfit, some makeup, and go to the middle of the dancefloor and have fun. He will certainly notice your chill attitude and good vibe and he will be attracted to it. We promise!
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé