We all probably know that there are different types of lesbians; heck, there are different types of people and we are all unique but in the lesbian world, there are multiple types and styles of lesbians that give away their sexuality so other lesbians and bisexuals can identity them. It might surprise you that there is a plethora of lesbian stereotypical categories and who would have thought? The lesbian world can be a complex world with someone always knowing someone who dated their ex or their friend or you end up dating someone who your friend dated; it’s a small community wherever you go and two degrees of separation nowadays.
How do you identify who is a lesbian and who isn’t? Consider lipstick or femme lesbians for example; it is hard to know whether they might be or if they are straight. Let’s go through the different types and consider the identifying characteristics of each; some fall under the femme stereotype while others under the butch stereotype.
1. Femme/Lipstick Lesbian
The Lipstick lesbian is characterized by her penchant for wearing dresses and feminine style clothing such as skirts. She’s also likely wearing make-up such as eyeliner and lipstick and loves doing her hair. The femme lesbian might take an hour in the bathroom getting ready to go out or even longer! They tend to love gay bar venues because they know they’re ‘at home’ there and that there’s more probability of being hit on or engaging with other lesbians; out in other venues, they are probably considered straight and men will hit on them.
2. The Chapstick Lesbian
This type of lesbian is a blend between butch and lipstick, butch being more masculine in identities such as clothing and hair style and lipstick being ultra-feminine. The chapstick lesbian will happily dress up all feminine for an evening or day out and loved her skirts and dresses but also is more than happy being comfortable in jeans and a hoodie.
3. The Activist Lesbian
Armed with a passion for social justice and environmentalist principles, the Activist lesbian is not characterized by any one type such as butch or femme; she might actually look more like a good old hippie. She is inspiring and inspired, motivated and committed to justice. Others around her gravitate towards her because she is so passionate about causes and this draws people to her.
4. The LUG Lesbian
She might not be on a course but she is a ‘Lesbian Until Graduation’ because she has only recently discovered that she seems to be attracted to other women and is exploring her sexuality. She will likely be attracted to femme or soft butch as they don’t seem as intimidating as the boi lesbian. The LUG lesbian could be sporty or femme and has been in the closet or uncertain of why her relationships with the opposite sex haven’t worked out. She may never have experienced an orgasm and men just haven’t achieved it with her.
The LUG lesbian could also have found that she just couldn’t seem to develop an emotional connection with men and has been wondering why this is happening to her, or not happening as the case may be. While she is still exploring her sexuality, she is a ‘Lesbian Until Graduation’ meaning she will identify as a lesbian if she finds that being with women is what works for her.
5. The Tourist
No, we’re not talking about traveling here but we are talking about checking out the scenery… or the scene as the case may be. The Tourist Lesbian is generally a straight girl looking to explore for some fun with another woman. She is curious and likely bisexual but to varying degrees depending on the individual.
Some tourists will enjoy the company and sexual connection quite a lot and continue exploring but end up dating a man while others will come to the realization that they are bisexual and can fall in love with both. The tourist basically tries hard to be one of the crowd among the lesbians and will often be found in the gay clubs pashing on with lesbians. The tourist will make friends with lesbians and loves hanging out with them to be one of them.
6. The Boi Lesbian
Further to the jeans and hoodie butch lesbian is the ultimate boi lesbian; she presents herself as truly boyish and is likely to exhibit masculine qualities and behaviors. She might have her cap backward or a Mohawk. She is not to be viewed as transgender; this is a different thing. She simply has a preference for being masculine in identity.
7. The Sporty Dyke
This type of lesbian is usually found in a gym lifting weights or running but usually, they are part of a soccer team or playing football. They are characterized not so much for their love of women but because they are passionate about their sport of choice. She will wear easy, comfortable clothing and be at home in her sports gear preferably in her team uniform with her name printed on the back. Not all women who are sorry are lesbians but all sporty dykes are definitely in the lesbian category.
8. The Baby Dyke
Usually found clinging to older, more experienced lesbians, the baby dyke lesbian has recently come out of the closet and is learning the ropes of the lesbian community. She is often taken under the wing of a more seasoned lesbian but she is prone to be perceived as ‘fresh meat’ for the scene lesbians. She could be femme, becoming butch, sporty or chapstick but she is characterized by her freshness to the community and scene.
9. The Hasbian
Finally, we reach the Hasbian. What is a Hasbian lesbian? Often the disappointment to the lesbians she knows, the Hasbian was a lesbian and in lesbian relationships but now is with a man or prefers to date men.
She’s experienced and can sleep with a woman should she choose but mostly she’s a lost cause to the lesbian community; she has decided to run with the opposite sex than pursue further lesbian relationships.
Her lesbian friends and circle don’t like losing one of their own and some will just not understand why she has decided to pursue men again. The Hasbian night identifies herself as straight now or bisexual.
10. The Actual Butch Lesbian
So, we cannot go through the types of lesbians without identifying the butch lesbian. She is typically free from any type of make-up and is more likely to adorn jeans and a hoodie than any dress. Skirts are not part of the butch Lesbian’s wardrobe.
People might be confused as to why she exhibits more masculine qualities but she is not to be perceived as wanting to be a man, far from it. She just enjoys subverting the stereotype of what a woman should look like and she is a woman in comfortable shoes!
She might have a ‘don’t mess with me’ look and be in the bar having a drink and playing pool, looking hot and drawing the attention of other lesbians.
So there you have it, who would have thought there would be ten different types of lesbians but there is. The lesbian community and scene are characterized by all these types and it is far easier to identify them when at gay bar venues and cafes especially for the lipstick/femme lesbians who so often get mistaken for being straight and experiencing men hitting on them. Why are there so many types of lesbians? Just like every individual in the heterosexual world is different so too are the lesbians in their community.
They each like a different style which best suits them and makes them feel attractive highlighting their best qualities. When you can’t identify a lesbian purely by the way she dresses and her hairstyle, just speaking with them can do the trick and you can gain signals from interactions.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé