You met someone, and there was a connection. Then, you decided to start a relationship. It’s basically the formula everyone follows.
After some time, you’re pretty sure this person is the one for you, but there’s this little voice in the back of your head telling you to watch for the warning signs in a relationship.
Why would your instinct be telling you something different? You know you love your partner and want to be with them. But maybe you need to do a second-take and look a little closer at what your gut is trying to tell you because it may be right.
No one wants to hear that their relationship isn’t healthy and is doomed to fail. Honestly, that would break most of our hearts.
We all want our relationships to work out at the end of the day. But not all relationships are meant to last. I know it’s not easy to hear, but it’s something you need to remember.
Below are the warning signs in a relationship, so you can avoid going down a dangerous road:
1. There were deal breakers: you just ignored them
When you went on the first and second date, you saw the red flags. You saw them, and you even talked about them with your friends. But yet, you chose to push them to the side and continue the relationship. You need to go back to those red flags and rethink things.
2. You two don’t share the same values
When it comes to money, religion, and family, you are on completely different wavelengths. If you want your relationship to be long-term, it’s important to have your core values lined up. If not, the relationship won’t last.
3. You aren’t excited to come home
After work, you head home to your partner, but it’s more like you need to drag yourself home. If you don’t want to go home because your partner will be there, this is a huge sign that something isn’t right.
4. You blame each other for everything
Where is the personal responsibility? In your relationship, instead of taking responsibility for your actions, you point fingers at each other and shift the blame. This will only get worse with time and eventually will lead to a blowup. Communication and growing up are essential.
5. You can’t remember any positive memories
When you think about your relationship, you don’t have many positive memories flooding into your head. This isn’t a good sign. If the only thing popping into your head are the fights and breakups you went through, then why are you still together?
6. You’re not sexually compatible
Sex isn’t the most important part of a relationship, but it’s up there. A big warning sign in a relationship is sexual compatibility. If you’re not attracted to your partner or have different sexual preferences, this will be a long-term problem. Yes, you can work it out, but it’ll take a lot of work and communication.
7. Disagreements turn into huge fights
It’s normal for people to disagree on things, but it never stops there with you and your partner. A small disagreement can easily turn into a massive blowout with yelling, name-calling, and screaming. What? How did that happen? Sounds like you have some serious communication issues.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé