When in a relationship…
When you see couples laughing and talking to each other for hours together, do you often wonder what do they talk so much about? Do you feel that many times you and your girlfriend run out of topics to talk to each other?
When you are in a new relationship, you obviously have a lot of questions you want to ask your girlfriend but you refrain from asking because you do not want to sound rude. On the other side, if you are in a relationship for quite some time, it is very natural that you both don’t have a lot to talk about like you used to before. You both know almost everything about each other and after discussing the daily routine what next should one talk about?
A good conversation is also very necessary if you want to build a stronger relationship and a good romance between both of you. While communication is the only thing that helps to sustain a relationship and make it grow, a happy conversation is even more important. If you know about just the perfect things to talk about then your girlfriend would be forever hooked on to you and you will have a blooming romance.
Although after some time, you both get accustomed to each other so well that even the silence that you share seems perfectly normal but yet if you could only communicate with the right topics, then your relationship will be even more fun. Better communication helps to bridge your gaps and also brings about better understanding between you and your girlfriend.
If you are running out of topics to talk about with your girlfriend then just have a look at the list of 30 interesting topics to talk about below:
1. You can talk about the future with your girlfriend
Talking about your future goals with your girlfriend is very important because it gives her an idea of your life goals. She gets to know about your focus in life and your future aspirations. If in a new relationship, talking about your future, helps your girlfriend analyze the future of your relationship. You can even ask her about hers to get an idea about where is she headed in life. If you are in a seasoned relationship, talking about your future together is very endearing and you both can look forward to a happy life ahead.
2. Plans for the coming weekend
Now this can be really fun and exciting. You can plan some fun activity or a short trip for the weekend. You both will know each other’s preferences this way and will together look forward to something exciting coming up.
3. Compliment your girlfriend
Give your girlfriend a lot of compliments when you do not have much to talk about. This will change the mood and she will be happy receiving compliments from her beau. Be genuine with your compliments and make sure you do not overdo it. You can compliment her on her dressing sense, her choice of perfumes, the food she makes and even on her beautiful soul.
4. Daily worries and issues
This is very important to discuss with each other on an everyday basis as it connects both of you in a better way. You feel light once you share your problems with someone and who would be better to discuss nagging worries or problems with other than your girlfriend. She too will feel closer to you and like a part of your family.
5. Movies and TV shows
If you want your conversation to hit a casual note, then head on to the topic of movies and TV shows. You will know about his favorite genre in movies and his favorite actors and actresses. Your girlfriend will tell you about hers. You will also get to know her perception on a particular episode and see how different people perceive something from different angles.
6. Share your secrets
This will be fun and something that will be kept only between you two. Everyone has some or the other secret in college or work and sharing it with your girlfriend adds a fun element to it. Your secrets like how you manage to copy the notes from your friend’s book while he goes for lunch or secrets like how you manage to become your boss’s pet will be fun to discuss over a cup of coffee with your girlfriend.
7. Talk about your family
If you are in a seasoned relationship, your girlfriend might be too eager to know your family. Talk to her a lot about your family so that she gets to know your background better. She needs to feel connected to you and be a part of your family. This will be a personal and interesting topic to talk about. If you are in a new relationship, then perhaps you could just give her some brief details about everyone in your family.
8. Talk about your workplace
You can talk about subjects like these to let your girlfriend know about your daily life. She will connect better with you and she will also have a lot of questions to ask about your workplace everyday if you tell her everything about it. You have to be in constant touch with a person’s current life to talk about interesting things with each other. Romance and past memories alone do not suffice in making a relationship work. You should have common topics to talk about too.
9. Your dreams
If you have some dreams in life, then your girlfriend should be the first person to know about them. She will not only be by your side when you are trying to fulfill them but will also help you achieve them.
10. Favorite food
Your girlfriend should obviously know about your favorite food so that she can cook for you herself some day or so that she knows what food to order, the next time you both go on a date together. You should know her choice too.
11. Food and restaurants
Talk about your favorite hangout joints and ask hers. This way you will know where to take her for Valentine’s Day or where to order your takeaways from.
12. Your hobbies and interests
Painting, dancing, cooking or any other hobby in the world, share it with your girlfriend. This will not only give her an insight into her likes and interests but it will also give you both some topic to talk about on a regular basis.
13. Your biggest fear
Everyone has some or other fear in life. If death of a loved one is someone’s biggest fear then someone else has the biggest fear of failing in life. Tell your girlfriend about it and ask about her biggest fear too. If any misfortune falls upon either of you, you both will be there for each other.
If you have a desire to travel to any exotic location or if you have a particular destination in your bucket list, then you can discuss it with your girlfriend. You will know whether she shares the same desires or whether she would join you in your travel plan.
Your girlfriend should not only know all your naughty, sober, dirty, funny, lazy and crazy friends, but she should also be popular amongst them. Ask her about her friends and try to be friendly with them too.
16. Your most proud moment
Talking about subjects like these connects you both on an emotional level. You not only get to know about his achievements but also know about what has made him the happiest in life.
17. Your most embarrassing moment
Bring subjects like these in your conversation. If a person talks about his most embarrassing moment to you, then one thing is clear. He feels close enough to you to confide into you such personal details of his life and you also get to know about him as a person. His ability to laugh at himself, accept his mistakes and regret certain things in life. He becomes more real to you with subjects like these and he is not putting up a false facade.
18. Self-improvement goals
If your conversation revolves around such intense topics, then you show your girlfriend the focused part of your personality. He perceives you as someone who has an aim, a motto in life and also someone who is aware of his weakness and is trying hard to improve.
19. Sex talk
Sex talk can be really fun with your girlfriend especially if she is not the prudish kinds. Indulge in a lot of sex talk and ask her a lot of questions if she is comfortable with the subject. With questions like these you get to know whether she is sexually romantic kinds or has sex just for fun.
20. Share some school and college jokes
Bring in some light-hearted conversation by sharing some of your old school and college jokes. Ask her about her school and college memories too.
21. Your past
This could be a touchy topic and you should get into this topic only if you are very comfortable with your girlfriend especially, if you have had a troubled childhood or a bad past memory. Ask her about her but do not intrude much if she in not comfortable.
22. Personal opinion
Personal opinions should not be diplomatic especially when you talk to your girlfriend. Tell her whatever you feel like about a particular subject. This way, your thought process would be clear to her and she will know how you think on various matters.
23. Some advice
If you feel that your girlfriend could do with some advice then do give her but in a very non-offensive way. Ask her some questions about what she feels about you too.
24. Some gossip
Indulge in a lot of gossip when you are communicating with your girlfriend. There is no harm as long as you make sure that no third person is eavesdropping!
25. Her passions in life
Whether it’s cooking, music, painting, dancing or any other activity that she is passionate about, you should know about it. Ask her about her passions in life and encourage her and help her achieve her goals in life.
26. World news
If your girlfriend is interested in world news then you can always come up with some latest world news to talk about with her. Not only will this brush up your knowledge but will make your appear as a well-read man.
You can talk about sports only if she is a sports fan because many girls are not!
28. Career goals
Everyone has a career goal. You should know hers and she should know hers. Ask her some questions regarding her work place and see if you can guide her to do better. Similarly, ask for her views and opinions on yours.
29. Ask her views on life
Ask her how does she see herself 5 years from now and you tell her about your views on your life. This could get into a really long and intense conversation.
30. Your mutual five-year plans
If you both plan to spend the rest of your lives together then do discuss marriage, future goals, your house and kids.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé