Just like we discussed common mistakes that men make in a relationship, there are a few frequent mistakes that a lot of women need to avoid doing to have a healthy, happy relationship.
Here’s a list of the most common mistakes women make in a relationship.
10. Trying to change him
During the dating period of a relationship, many women spot flaws in their guy or things that they just dislike, but they continue to take the relationship forward, thinking they’ll change these things. This is the most common mistake women make, thinking you can change his love for golf to football, this will never work, he’ll continue loving golf, and you’ll continue getting annoyed by his preference.
It is essential to love him for him if your man is a quiet one, don’t expect him to turn into a social guy after you have ‘worked’ on him. This will only create problems between you two.
9. Getting insanely jealous
A little jealousy is okay, but if you flip out every time there is a woman in his vicinity, then you’re making a mistake. It is natural for men to check out other women, as long as it’s just a cursory look, there is no need to get angry about it. Men love women who are confident and secure, so don’t be a jealous, insecure, possessive girlfriend. This will make him think you don’t trust him, cause fights and bitterness. If you give him a happy, well-balanced relationship, you’ll never be insecure about it. Don’t let jealousy kill your relationship.
8. Making the relationship your ultimate source of Fmistak
Women need to understand that relationship is a part of their life and not their entire life. Nothing suffocates a man more than a woman who relies on him for everything, has nothing going on for herself, and is extremely needy. Some women cut off their friends and family as soon as they get into a relationship or meet them rarely, making their man the focus of their lives, thinking this will make your man happy, it won’t. Have a hobby, some passion, hang out with your friends and family, have a positive glow.. don’t be boring.
7. Not taking care of yourself
It is a common practice by women; once they are in a long term relationship and they feel secure that the man is in it for the long run especially after marriage and kids, they let themselves go and feel there’s no need to shave your legs, work out, wear nice outfits or look good just for your man like you used to do in the beginning. Women defend this point by saying he should love me at my worst, for my natural look, etc. but hey, nobody’s asking you to look like Barbie 24/7. All that is being asked is to look at least clean, smell nice, be healthy…
Just be presentable. Remember, now that the relationship has been going on for quite some time, it is more important to keep things feeling ‘sexy’ and refreshing.
6. Being passive aggressive
Nothing drives men crazier than a woman being passive-aggressive when you look upset but say ‘nothing’ when he asks what’s wrong. Don’t just say nothing and then continue being sad and weird, expecting him to force you into telling him; this will only annoy him because men are more straightforward by nature, and it just pisses them off when women act all dramatic about things.
If it’s something he did, then don’t go for the silent treatment, tell him what’s bothering you, discuss it, and if it’s something outside the relationship, then let him help you by being your support.
5. Not giving him his space
Some women tend to forget that they’re individuals first, and a couple later, they confine themselves to the boundaries of the relationship and expect their man to do the same. They become clingy and needy, not leaving their man personal space. Let him hang out with his friends, or spend time on his hobbies, don’t invade his me time.
Trying to glue yourself to him will choke him, and he’ll start missing his single life. Also, this is a common internet joke that when a man is in his ‘nothing box’ women constantly keep nudging at him trying to figure out what he’s thinking, except that a man can look like he is deep in thought yet have nothing but a song playing in his head.
4. Not appreciating his efforts
As true as this is for men, even women tend to take their men for granted. Appreciate the things he is doing for you, focus on his good more than his bad. For example, you have a date night planned, and he gets thirty minutes late but gets you flowers to make up for it and is all apologetic, but all you do is fight him for being late and ruin the date by being in a bad mood for the rest of the night. If he does something nice for you to encourage him by being thankful instead of acting all snobby about it like it was his duty to act this way.
3. Involving a third person
Be it your best friend or your mom, keep your relationship problems as personal as possible. Even if you feel the need to vent out about something, which women often need to, don’t involve that person so much in your relationship that instead of making things better, you end up messing it up more by following wrong relationship advice. If you two had a fight and your friend tells you not to accept his apology till he begs for it, and you obey it although your heart tells you otherwise, don’t do it.
You know your man more than anybody else, you should know how to deal with your problems, be mature about it and don’t let someone else let it ruin it. This could also cause discord between your partner and your friends/family.
2. Being negative most of the time
Nagging is a huge turn off for men. Women should know that words like ‘always’ or ‘never’ are two extremely negative words to be used during a discussion, it will turn a discussion into an argument as hearing ‘You’re always late!’ will immediately activate his defense mechanism. He’ll try to bring up evidence from the past to prove you wrong, instead try saying ‘I would like to spend more time with you, please come home early tomorrow, I miss you’ This will not only make him feel important, but he’ll also consider your request.
Just avoid constantly screaming, nagging, and taunting him. Avoid the grouchy girlfriend syndrome by always whining, complaining, and being negative about most things.
1. Expecting him to read your mind
Women are more sensitive and nurturing in nature than men and might expect men to be the same way and just understand their needs, but most men don’t. If you want to be cuddled, don’t magically expect him to do so just because you think he should, telling him, ‘I could use a hug right now’ won’t hurt. Men are not minded readers, so if you have a specific need in bed or generally let him know, and I’m sure he’ll be happy to oblige instead of him trying to figure out the reasons for your mood swings. Communicate your likes and preferences.
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