Divorce is something no couple wants to go through. It only happens when every other option has been exhausted or when one or both partners no longer care about the other. Many couples who file for divorce say there was nothing they could do to prevent the failure of their marriage, but there are many options couples who truly care about each other can take to avoid divorce. Relish, the top relationship advice app in the Apple App Store, can help couples struggling with their relationship with the tools and tips to strengthen their relationship and avoid divorce.
See a Marriage Counselor
Talking with a marriage counselor may be uncomfortable for you or your spouse but that’s how you grow. Explaining how you feel and airing your issues is the first step to solving major problems in the relationship. The counselor will give you and your spouse marriage tips on how to work through problems and arguments, so they don’t lead to blowing out fights.
It’s important to be completely honest with your spouse. The occasional white lie about something trivial like “did you clog the toilet?” isn’t going to lead to a relationship ending fight but bigger lies such as lying about where you were last night or lying about your feelings toward each other can be a huge problem. Honesty will set you free and most people tend to forget their lies so you might as well tell the truth.
Don’t Be Controlling
Let your spouse have their space. Don’t force them to do anything they don’t want to do or make them schedule their life around you. There are going to be things that you love that your partner doesn’t and it’s okay for them to not like it. If they want to go out with friends, let them go out, never force them to spend time with you. They married you for a reason, they’re going to want to spend time with you.
Don’t Lose Intimacy
Intimacy is key to a successful marriage. If you avoid being intimate with your spouse, they’ll start rejecting you and possibly cheat on you. You don’t have to jump into bed every single night for hours on end, but it’s important to have a healthy intimate relationship with your spouse. Infidelity is the number one cause of divorce and if the intimacy in your marriage is gone, your partner will find it with someone else.
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