The fear of love (or falling in love) phobia is known as Philophobia. The word originates from Greek “filos,” which means ‘loving or beloved.’ Individuals who have this phobia fear romantic love or forming emotional attachments of any sort
Are you the type of person who automatically feels uncomfortable whenever the idea of falling in love pops into your head? Do you feel uneasy whenever your friends start asking you about your love life; and your plans for getting into a relationship? Well, if you answered yes to both these questions, then it’s highly likely that you are someone who has serious philophobia – and this is the perfect article for you.
But first, it’s essential to establish: what exactly is philophobia, and why is it necessary for you to know what it is in the first place? What are the symptoms that come with having this fear, and how could having this phobia affect the way that you live your life?
Five signs you have Philophobia.
1. You carry a lot of emotional baggage from the past.
You are affected by traumatic events from your past. Maybe you have already had your heart broken once by someone before, and you’ve never been able to recover. Perhaps you still haven’t moved on from it. Or maybe you are a child of a failed marriage. Maybe your parents divorced or separated when you were younger, and that has emotionally scarred you. One of the top reasons for Philophobia.
2. You find it immensely difficult to trust other people.
You have already been in a real relationship with someone once before (it could be either a romantic or a spiritual one). And in that relationship, you developed a certain closeness with another person. You allowed yourself to trust them and be vulnerable with them. But what do you get in return? You get betrayal. You get stabbed in the back. And it hurt you. And you don’t know if you can bring yourself to trust anyone ever again.
3. You think that being in a relationship is equivalent to being trapped.
You have this philosophy that all intimate relationships are somehow chains and prisons that keep you from getting where you need to be. You feel like relationships only hold you back in life. You feel like relationships are killers of freedom. You feel like being in a real relationship with someone is essentially you giving up your sense of self.
4. You get very uncomfortable when you start to get intimate with someone.
It’s not that you don’t connect with people. You still connect with people, but you always put a stranglehold on that connection. You always set a limit on it. You never allow it to get buried. You never allow it to grow strong. You never let it go beyond a certain point if you have Philophobia.
5. You enjoy sex, but you don’t know how to deal with the awkwardness that comes after.
You like sex. It’s physical, but it doesn’t always HAVE to be emotional. But the fact that you don’t want to involve yourself in the psychological aspects of it makes it awkward for you when the sex is done.
1. What do you do?
2. How do you act?
3. What is the proper etiquette?
It all freaks you out on an immense level.
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