Here’s a list of seven things women do when you’re coming on too strong: IF she just met you and isn’t invested in any kind of relationship yet:
1. She’ll ghost you.
Ghosting is the new Facebook—it’s what everyone is doing and using to avoid reality. Ghosting is when a woman acts as if she’s died on you, hence the ghosting because she no longer seems to exist in your world. When a woman disappears, it’s one of the signs you’ve come on too strong. It’s also a sign that she wasn’t feeling it with you in the first place and instead of being a big girl and telling you, she chose to simply not deal with it. [Also read: 11 Creative Ideas for Romantic Things to Do]
2. She’ll kindly tell you to go away.
If you’re approaching a woman for the first time, whether it’s in person or online, and coming on to strong she may politely tell you that she’s not into what you’re putting out there. For example she may say something like, “I wish you luck on your search. I don’t think this will work.” Or in person, she may say, “Me and my friends haven’t seen each other in so long so we’d really like just catch up.” [Also read: 5 Dating Tips on How to Ask a Man Out]
3. She’ll continue to make plans and then cancel.
If you’re coming on too strong, a woman will continue to agree to plans with you but then cancel last minute. She may even continue to offer up alternative options but will cancel on those plans as well. She’s doing this because she’s trying to be polite and not rattle things. If you’re this strong in your emotions and actions when you like her, she’s probably worried what you’ll be like if she breaks your heart or expresses disinterest. [Also read: 5 Things to Talk About on a Second Date]
4. She’ll delay her responses.
When a woman takes a day and a half to get back to you it’s a huge sign that you need to slow your roll and back off a bit. I always advise men to mirror a woman’s responses. It’s a way to avoid coming on to strong and will make her feel like you’re on the same page. [Also read: 7 Career goals every Girl should set for Herself]
5. She’ll send you simple, short responses.
A woman doesn’t want to entice a man she’s not interested in but she also doesn’t want to be rude. Therefore, she’ll keep responding to you, probably at a very slow pace, but all messages will be short, sweet, to the point, and void of any emotions. [Also read: 8 Things You Should Know About Dating Older Women]
IF she’s invested and likes you:
6. She’ll pull away.
I remember this one guy that I dated a long time. When I first met him, I really liked him—I liked how he acted, I like how I felt around him. Overall, I liked most things about him and was excited to get into a relationship with him. But as soon he started getting a little too eager and moving things fast, I pulled away. His desire to race into things so fast had me questioning my feelings for him. I kept thinking, “He likes me sooo much more than I like him. Do I even like him? [Also read: 9 Things Guys Always Want But Wont Ask for]
7. She’ll tell you that you’re being too intense.
This is the most mature reaction a woman can have when a man’s coming on too strong and hopefully the one that she’ll use the most, especially if she’s invested in you. A mature woman will simply tell you that she’s not on the same page as you and needs things to slow down and not be so intense. Things Women Do When You’re Coming On Too Strong