If you’re worried you may be dating a narcissist, there are some telltale issues to look for. Remember, anyone may engage in these behaviors occasionally, but when it’s a pattern or an ongoing behavior, they’re major red flags. Signs You’re Dating A Narcissist
Six things narcissists do and say in relationships that give them away:
1. I’m everything you’ve always wanted.
One of the ways a narcissist finds a relationship is by being extremely charming and persuasive while they’re selectively testing the waters and looking for a partner who will accommodate their needs to be the center of attention. They usually choose someone else they see as needing attention or recognition and provide that attention for them. This makes the narcissist look like the perfect, attentive partner. You should pay close attention if the charm and affection is extreme, because a narcissist will go out of his or her way to seem like they’re everything you’ve ever wanted. [Also read: 10 Secret Things That Can Make Men Crazy About You]
2. Let’s talk about me.
A narcissist can’t allow a conversation to drift too far from their areas of expertise, their experiences, or their achievements. (And, of course, they often misrepresent and give a grandiose version of what they actually know or have done. [Also read: 5 Dating Topics to Avoid on a First Date]
3. I don’t follow the rules.
A sure sign of a narcissist is someone who doesn’t just bend the rules, but honestly doesn’t believe they apply to him or her. This can seem dangerous and rebellious and provide the bad boy or girl image they project. [Also read: 5 Ways to Recognize Your Life Partner]
4. We don’t need boundaries.
Very quickly in a relationship with a narcissist, normal boundaries are not just violated, they’re torn down. The narcissist must be in control, and the other person must be willing to become fully submissive to the narcissist’s desires. [Also read: 7 Fun Games for Couples To Play on Date Night]
5. Don’t steal my glory.
A narcissist can’t see anyone’s contribution to an achievement as important or equal to their own. Look out for someone who says only he or she can fix a problem or develop a solution. There is no team; there’s only the narcissist who takes all the credit. If, however, there is a problem or a failure, it’s solely the responsibility of the team, and the narcissist will quickly disavow any responsibility. 6 Ways to Earn your Spouse’s Trust
6. That’s not my problem.
Finally, the narcissist is unable to show any true empathy or sympathy. He or she may be able to fake sympathy in public, but in private they see themselves as superior and everyone else simply inferior and failing, with no mitigating factors considered or even acknowledged. [Also read: 3 Reasons Why They Stop Loving you]
Learning to recognize the early signs of a narcissist in a relationship is important. These people have learned to cover up the most obvious behaviors, but they’re still there if you know what to look for. Signs You’re Dating A Narcissist