Here are Things to Consider Before Going into Relationship. Stay Tuned
1. Examine Yourself
Before you put it all out there with someone else, you definitely want to take a look at yourself. It’s important to have a complete awareness of who you are, your strengths and weaknesses, before getting into a relationship.[Read: 10 things to do to avoid heartbreak]
2. Forget The Past
If you’ve been burned in past relationships, it’s important not to compare your current partner to your past partners. It’s not fair to you or to them. “Too many times I have seen relationships with potential go bad as you compare a past partner to a new one.” So Never compare [ Read 7 Secret signs that reveal a bad relationship]
3. Keep Jealousy From Ruining Your Relationships
In more extreme cases, jealousy can lead to possessiveness in a relationship, and that’s unhealthy behavior! There’s no need to compare yourself to other people — keep on doing you and hold your head high. [Read: 13 Extraordinary signs he is the one]
4. Timing And Expectations
Of course discussing expectations for yourself, your partner, and your relationship is important, but you also want to discuss your expectations in regards to where you want to be in your relationship at a certain point.
If one person has a specific timeline and the other none at all, you can find yourself having spent a year or more with a person and wanting a commitment from someone who has no intention of giving one anytime soon, and feeling like you just wasted an entire year of your life.”[ Read: How to get over someone you deeply lovr
5. Evaluate Your Religious Identity
No matter if you’re religious or not, this is another thing you want to hash out before getting into a relationship. Even if you feel like religion might not be an issue, eventually it could be, so consider covering it now — especially if you plan on having children together at some point.
6. Listen, But Also Hear Your Partner
Although we’re all capable of listening, it’s the ability to truly hear someone that’s most important. And you want to truly hear your partner before you get into a relationship with them.
“Too many people get swept up in romance and excitement, and they forget to listen and learn about the person they’re dreaming about and fantasizing a life together,” New York–based relationship expert and author April Masini tells Bustle.
While there are no guarantees in life, if you start with a sturdy foundation and go from there, you just might have a better chance at a successful relationship. If you think of your relationship like a house, then it’s clear to see why a foundation is so necessary. You can’t just build a house on the ground, with nothing strong enough to old it up and make it last. I’m pretty sure my father has used this analogy a hundred times when he’s doled out relationship advice to me, but it does make perfect sense
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