Whenever Trust is lost, what we don’t want to lose after Trust is lost is communication. Communication actually needs to pick up a little bit more. I think the lack of communication creates a loss of trust. So, to rebuild trust requires us to literally step up the amount and the frequency of communication. [Also read: 5 Ways to Cope With Passive-Aggressive Spouse]
If we can desire and wish and want for that connection to hold together, communication will bring in the level of connection. And I believe it’s also important that we believe what we act as though we want to maintain or rebuild a reestablish that level of connection with the person. Connection means that we’re willing to listen, we’re willing to talk, we’re willing to sort things out. And emotionally, even though we may be hurt, we still are including this person in our life.
3. Talk about what went wrong.
Where were the glitches, where did it go bad. And now, it’s time to talk about what are the new agreements going to be. Because part of rebuilding trust is coming up with new agreements. Now, a mistake that people make is they do verbal agreements. A verbal agreement can get forgotten about, it can be twisted. It can be totally rearranged in somebody’s head about what was said. And my suggestion to you is to put all agreements in writing. They have a copy, you have a copy or it’s posted somewhere about what they’re going to do and what you’re going to do to help build this trust. But I’ve made this mistake many times before where it was a verbal agreement. How to Rebuild Lost Trust
But an expectation without an agreement is going to be a problem. So, remember that. Before you can ever have expectations on someone, there must be a point you come together where you both agree on what needs to be different. And put it in writing. The last one is to keep a positive story about yourself and about the person. Because we can all dredge up enough evidence to literally talk bad about somebody or talk down about somebody. How to Rebuild Lost Trust