Commitment is something that you would always want from the person you’re dating. Naturally, if you’re interested in pushing this relationship to the next level, you are going to require the commitment of your partner as well. It can’t be all your own individual effort. You need to be assured of the fact that you’re with someone who is really serious about going all-in with you.
You might think that your efforts alone would be able to carry your relationship to the finish line. But no. Relationships don’t work like that. You’re going to have to get your partner on board as well. And that’s not always easy. Commitment isn’t necessarily something that you are entitled to. A lot of the time, it’s something that you have to earn. And that’s something that not a lot of people realize.
You must always make a concerted effort to practice good habits in your relationship to present yourself as someone who is worth being committed to. You can’t expect your partner to get serious about being with you if you don’t take yourself seriously either. You can’t expect your partner to take a mature approach to the relationship if you are acting immature yourself.
That is why it’s important that you still practice good habits. It’s important that you are still doing the right things to make sure that your partner doesn’t think ill of you in any way. You don’t want your partner to think that you’re not someone they shouldn’t be committing to. And that’s why you want to be making a point of doing everything possible to make them commit.
1. Just have fun with it in the first parts.
Just keep things casual at first. Have fun with it. go with the flow. Don’t try to be so controlling of everything right away.
2. Don’t push the “DTR” talks.
If he’s not ready to define the relationship just yet, then don’t force it. Let him figure out his feelings for the first part. Allow him to really process everything. If you pressure him, he might just end up running away instead.
3. Express an interest in his life.
Express an interest in his life. Try to make sure that he knows that you are genuinely interested in getting to know him better. The more interest you show in him, then the more comfortable he will be with actually opening up to you.
4. Share the planning responsibilities.
It’s nice when you take the initiative in a relationship. But you can’t be owning up to everything. Allow him to participate. Allow him to make a few emotional investments here and there. It will make him more enticed to actually commit to you.
5. Look past the bad days.
Everyone is going to go through their fair share of bad days. And you can’t make him feel bad for it if he ever goes through them. Show him that you are patient and understanding enough to know that how he acts on these occasional bad days shouldn’t be totally indicative of who he really is.
6. Don’t give up too much for the relationship.
Never give up too much for the relationship. Yes, compromise and sacrifice are essential in a functioning relationship. You always want to be able to meet each other halfway. But if you give up too much for your relationship, then you might actually end up resenting your partner for it.
7. Don’t forget about strengthening your individual life.
Sometimes, you can get so caught up in trying to get a guy to commit to you that you would just completely neglect your individual life. And that can’t be the case. You have to make sure that you are still doing your part in strengthening your individual life as well. Otherwise, he might see you as self-deprecating.
8. Be your true and authentic self.
Always stay true to who you really are. You never want to be acting like you are anyone other than who you are on the inside. If you try to act all fake, then he’s going to be able to see right through your act. If you act rather unnaturally, it’s going to be really clear to him and he will not want that.
9. Let him be his own man.
Allow him to be his own man. You don’t want to be controlling and manipulating every aspect of his life. Respect the fact that he is his own person and that he is still entitled to make his own choices and decisions that are independent from your sentiments and opinions.
10. Keep those defenses at a minimum.
And lastly, you’re going to have to lower those defenses if you’re really interested in getting him to commit to you. He isn’t going to want to commit himself to a woman who can’t trust him enough to be vulnerable with him. Lower your defenses and let him in into your life.