1. They Always Find Something Wrong With You And Refer To Your Past Mistake
No one is perfect as we all have our excesses. We are all bound to make mistakes and offending your partner is inevitable and vice-versa because we are mortals and within us lies imperfection. That’s where forgiveness comes into play. [Also Read: 10 Brutal ways to get revenge on your ex]
Every healthy relationship has rough days when we get angry and offended, but we talk about it to get to a resolution and forgive one another.
However, in a toxic relationship, the toxic partner always looks out for faults and doesn’t waste time in pointing accusing finger at their partners. This continues such that a partner would always have stones to throw at his partner for every little mistake. [Also Read: 20 Interesting topics to talk about with the girl you like]
2. Your Relationship Becomes Conditional And It’s Based On Selfish Interest
You will be convinced you are in a toxic relationship when you notice that your significant other doesn’t care about how you feel neither does he/she care about your needs nor interested in what happens in your life. [Also Read: 5 Things you need to understand about ex]
It usually gets to the point where all they care about is how you accommodate their needs and all the things they can get from you and how you will make them feel good. It could be that you are being used for sensual gratification, monetary gains or to get to a position they desire.
3. You Get Blamed For Their Emotional Trauma And You Still Get To Apologize
There are times when we tend to lose our cool and get crazy when we get frustrated or going through a tough period. [Also Read: 5 Essential Steps To Getting Your Ex Back]
It could be due to stress, work pressure or even changes in body chemistry as it’s common with ladies and mood swing issues experienced in that special time of the month. You know we humans sometimes just want to vent our anger on someone so we can feel better, a bit relieved and make them understand our pain.
4. You Feel Drained Of All Your Positive Energy Without Any Meaningful Or Positive Impact
Being around the special people in your life should be special moments where fond memories are created whether family, friends or a romantic partner. You should always leave feeling energized with a whole lot of positive vibes.
If then you realize that is not the case but instead your relationships leave you regularly drained, going back with sad thoughts so much so you get to question yourself and you don’t always look forward to spending time with them, then check.
In a toxic relationship, there is no room for growth because they don’t make a conscious effort into seeing you be the best version of you. This will obviously leave you exhausting in the relationship.
5. They Stop Taking Responsibilities
In healthy relationships, both partners take responsibility for their actions. When there is a bridge both partners make an effort to build back the connection through communication. This is not the case in a toxic relationship where the toxic partner refuses to take responsibility for his/her actions. Instead, they look for excuses to either pass the blame to someone else or justify their actions.
According to Megan Fleming, a relationship therapist in New York City, “a sign of a toxic relationship is when your partner never admits to their wrongs, doesn’t take responsibility for their actions or always needs to have the last say in an argument”.
6. You Are Always Scared Of Being Yourself Around Them Because You Don’t Want To Offend Them
Relationships are interesting when we can freely express ourselves without fear of being judged for who we are. You want your spouse or your parent to be your biggest fan, cheer you up to success and celebrate little wins with you.
When your partner doesn’t care or pay attention to happenings around you, you get scared of saying how you feel or whats going on in your mind or even your plans.
7. They Become Abusive
Most toxic relationships are always abusive. The abuse can be emotional, psychological, emotional or even physical. No one has the right to abuse you in any way especially when it comes to physical abuse. There are no two ways about it because if they ever try it once, it is sure to repeat itself.
Toxic persons are very abusive because they tend to look for ways to pour out all their anger and toxicity on anyone close to them especially people who are closely knitted to them.
8. They Have Bad Behaviours And You Are Always Making Excuse For Them Hoping They Will Change And They Show No Remorse
The feeling of love can make one blind to faults which causes you to see the other person as perfect. Truth be told, we all should have an acceptable limit of tolerance of misbehaviour in any relationship. This will help identify a toxic person at the beginning of a relationship.
Toxic people are never apologetic about their inappropriate actions because they always feel right about themselves. The moment you begin to realize that you have been making too many excuses for your partner with the hope of getting them to behave differently but to no avail, it’s time to jump the ship because you are in for a toxic relationship.
The actions of a toxic partner will usually make you feel insecure. Most of the time, a toxic partner gives the impression that you can’t do without them but they can do without you. Once you believe that, you find yourself in a state of low esteem and in an atmosphere of thoughts that will suggest you will be helpless once you leave them.
All their action will keep making you feel insecure about the relationship. They will usually say words that suggest they can walk out of the relationship anytime without considering how you feel. You always feel like someone is doing a favour by being your partner.
10. Competition And Struggle For Power
Competition can occur in a relationship when one partner begins to feel like he/she is less important than the other or one partner feels the other person is doing better than him/her. In this case, they find themselves striving to be like the other person or even better.
They always want to control the other person so they can feel powerful and have a feel of being in charge of the relationship. They don’t mind sabotaging your means of sustenance so you don’t overpower them in the struggle of power.